What is crying? Why do we cry? Does crying always associate with
sadness and pain? How can we tell if the person is crying out of
happiness or pain inside?
I took a bus back home today. Saw a toddler talking to her family
while standing and the bus took a jerk forward and she fell down.
She cried as a result and rather loud too, I might add. As I was
watching the 'awkward' situation from a corner as her father helped
her up, it made me ponder as I see her cry.
We cry because we are in pain. We cry because we are hurting inside
our heart. We cry simply because its one of the most effective ways
to vent out deep unhappiness in us.
Is it sand that threw itself into our eyes that caused tears to
form and well up in our eyes? Or we cry so as to purge any possible
toxin that coagulate in our eyes and subsequently wash our eyes? Or
maybe we cry because we are just plain emotional?
When we see a couple on the aisle exchanging vows of marriage or a
newborn baby, even graduation of the young adult, we can somehow
see a few individuals, mostly the mother or close relative, shed
tears. Normally we dismiss it off as tears of happiness and
joy.
Can you imagine seeing a new life, or years of grooming come to
fruition or even seeing your child tying the knot makes you so
happy and felt joy that mere words could not even describe that,
tears are the best way to express that feeling.
Is that really the case? Seeing a newborn coming into the world of
treachery, betrayal, mistrust and others. Or seeing that the young
graduate is now about to face the REAL world, not under the shelter
of the parents anymore. Seeing the married couple is now going to
face new challenges and issues they could never imagine possible or
happening to them. Does the crying kin subsconsciously know what it
will be like or is there more? Perhaps a mixture of happiness and
sadness?
We fall down and blood trickles from the knee, we cry. We got caned
by our mothers and made to kneel, we cry. We get ridiculed by
friends or peers, we cry. We felt injustice as the teachers blamed
us for something we did not do, we cry. We broke up with our dates,
we cry. Our kins or friends passed away, we cry. A heated arguement
with our family, we cry alone. Years of pain and fustration bottled
up into us, we find a place and cry.
So many things to make us cry. Its an innate ability since coming
out from our mothers' womb. Its so natural and easy to do. Babies
cry when they are hungry, uncomfortable or wanted attention. Kids
cry when they are bullied, hurt or unable to get what they wanted.
Teenagers cry when they break up, get maligned or couldn't make the
grade. Adults cry when they felt helpless, lost or fustrated.
However, I left out the question on 'What is crying'.
Is crying a way to ease tension and pain? Perhaps its really to
wash the toxin away? Or maybe there really is no reason to answer
what exactly is crying.
I only know this: Crying is a gift.
When you are misunderstood, bullied, tortured or anything that
hurts you, anger is there. Loss of rational thinking is inevitable.
Maybe you will plot some sort of revenge or just try to direct the
negative emotions to your own benefit. When all these are gone and
done with, all that is left are the pain and sorrow that are not
dealt with. What was earlier done could not justify or even soothe
the pain that is in you.
What can you do?
You cry.
