personally i feel that chasity and abstinence issues is each to his
own.
the main point is.
to never regret your decisions and point your fingers at someone
else for a blame.
In my personal point of view.
Chasity is subjective.
when you are in love with someone, you do not think of a break
up.
for a woman, its like a precious thing that they chose to give
their bf's saying something like " hey i decided, your a man worth
it to have everything from me, ( and most of them would think
they'll be together for a very very long time at that moment. ) ."
so they decide to give something they treasure alot.
but if the relationship fails..
can you say that the woman doesnt value chasity cause she gave it
to a man that she has now lost??
its the same thing as in a marriage, so you keep it till marriage,
doesnt mean there wont be divorce and re-marriage right?
do you think that a man whose worth it wouldnt marry you jus
because your not chase?
so wat? after that divorce ur not allowed to fall in love n
re-marry?? would you be deemed not as valuable because you cannot
offer the chasity to your 2nd husband??
chasity isnt about giving yourself to any men, boyfriend or
husbands.
its about what you CHOSE to do with your body.
you do not hold your virginity because u hold a wish to offer a
present in your marriage which is your chasity because guess
that...
IT DOES NOT MATTER.
like it or not, nowadays, men rarely blame u if ur not a
virgin.
the best gift in a marriage is understanding and devotion.
not your dam virginity.
, you hold yourself because you WANT IT FOR YOURSELF, not to give
to anyone else.
don't blame it on the men on wanting it so much or watever.
they cannot force you to do what you do not want to do.
it also does not mean that because other people dun keep their
virginity till marriage means they do not value chasity.
it could be then they thought they had found someone they could
give it to but somehow circumstances isnt in their side.
if your guy wants it, if you dun feel like hes the one. then stop
pondering so much and just tell him no.
if you feel like half way here half way there. then consider if
your gonna regret your decisions, make sure that the next time for
the rest of your life you wake up u will not blame the men.
because the decision only lies in ur hands, if you regret, only
blame yourself, dun blame sum1 else for pressuring or
watever.
because i belive everyone has a will power, has a mind.
even pressure from someone you love cannot make you do sumtin u dun
want
unless inside your tempted and want it aswel.
theres a reason why most of these things.
when such things happen.
like how boyfriends cajole gfs into havin sex, gf breaks under
pressure and gives it to him.
it cannot be charged in court as non-consentual sex because
IT WAS CONSENTUAL,
the guy did nothing but use words.
words dont affect u unless you chose to get affected.
