Do couple always quarrel?

EbiTenpura SG

Me and my boy always quarrel over small/big matters. He's serving NS while im still schooling in poly.
Then he is someone with very hot-temper. I remember he once punch the mrt door at bugis when he was very angry. I was like Embarassed (wanna dig a hole and hide my face inside).
we're together like going to 2 years...i'm afraid if this continue i would let go someday.
My sister told me quarrel is part of the process. After the period everything will be peaceful. Is it true?
How? Sad

AndrewPKYap SG

NOT TRUE! anywayz it takez two to quarrelz…

Bontakun SG

Will you find it strange if a couple NEVER EVER quarrel? Not even once?

EbiTenpura SG

But mine is always..every weekend he book out we will somehow quarrel...:/

mystee SG

i think is normal to quarrel.. but i cant stand ppl who is hot-temper.. & punch slap here n there during quarrel.. like got abusive symptons lor..

AndrewPKYap SG

Once in a blue moon is not counted right?

EbiTenpura SG

Yes i mention to him b4 he got the symptons of beating up his wife next time. Got once he punch a tree near by. Another time is he shouted at me around orchard... Crying or Very sad

On the other hand he is really nice to me when he is not angry..at least till now he haven't lay his hands on me...

Bontakun SG

Meaning quarrel is part of a relationship, right? However, quarelling without constructive feedback and a heart for forgiveness will make it hard for the relationship to improve further.

EbiTenpura, in your case, you have to talk to your guy and ask him what is bugging him. Work it out and approach the problems TOGETHER. If he is unwilling to share, give him time. If you cannot take it, you have to tell him your concerns.

One way or another, you two will get past this hurdle. What the result will be is up to the two of you.

Herzog_Zwei SG

Couples do quarrel but at least, you are not the violent person.
I got a buddy who's married but goes to work wrapped in bandages due to his wife.

mystee SG

think he seem to need to vent his angry by punching here & there.. we cant tell if he will have lay his hand on u in the future.. cos is not fair to him.. but now u have to c if u compromise with his bad temper for the rest of your life.. cos no one is perfect.. & i doubt someone with bad temper can change.. the most he can.. is to minimise it...

EbiTenpura SG

Hmm...i did try to talk to him before..but he's either not paying attention or say dont wanna talk about it cause wil led to mroe problem -.-|||

EbiTenpura SG

i'm got this bad feelings everytime he vent his anger on non living things.
you're right character are hard to change.

Bontakun SG

Dats one prob with us guys... Watever prob we tink we can handle it alone.

Ok eh... juz show him your concern and slowly talk to him about it another time. For now you just have to find another way to deal with his temper and fustrations.

allentyb SG

boys will always be boys

no matter what they do, they are just too darn ignorant

think about it, TS

do you want to babysit your boi, or find someone who will cater to your needs?

Rolling Eyes

since he is in NS already, and he can't be there for you, why not, take this chance and start to date around, perhaps you might be able to find someone better

just a suggestion

peace out

zeny SG

Quarrelling is common between couples. As long as you know how to take care of it when both of you cool down.

But your problem is not quarrelling, the main problem is your boy temper.

Let me ask you this question before i countinue

1) If one day your bf really hits you .. what will you do?
This is important cos i need to see whether if you accept others advice or just love him blindly so think carefully

pokkagreentea SG

His punching and hitting objects tactic is an issue. If not controlled, he might turn into physical abuse and it could possibly cause a traumatic relationship.
Since yr bf is not the type who is willing to compromise and listen, I think you better break it off with him unless you know the way to tackle his bad temper.

While he's serving NS right now, it's the opportunity to date around and find a guy who is better than your current bf. But firstly, say your piece of mind to ur current bf calmly and see how he responds. If he is willing to compromise, youre relationship might still a chance to blossom. If he gets aggressive again, then it's end-of-relationship. You know, nobody wants a partner who never listens and has bad-temper!

Cool-gal SG

quarrel is common but seeing his way of venting his anger reli scares me.
i ever had a ex-bf like this too, he punch on the wall and stare at ple offensively, trying to vent his anger on others. though he never lay his hands on me, but i noe one fine day he just would. so i leave him. he is short and hot tempered, and possesive too. scary. Shocked
ultimately its ur decision, but i can say chances of him turning into an abuser is high.
take care.

Yunhaier SG

Is he an Aries or Scorpio?

Cheers

Quinsy SG

Was in the same situation. In NS, in poly, always fight. In the end just each step back one step lor. 打亲骂巧 what. COMMON LA.

Kuali Baba SG

Violence is inexcusable, be it physical or verbal.