Originally posted by paul_muaddib:
Haha im not sure really. My spelling has always been terrible. Just
last night i couldnt sleep, due to my unhappiness.
Now, though there problem is still there, I dont feel as much pain
anymore. I guess the key thing was i needed to stop doing things
that hurt myself, like continually going back to her. Feeling sorry
for myself also doesnt help. And, i needed to let other ppl know.
At first was feeling ashamed that this happened, but its just
silly.
Once i decided to really stop hurting myself, i begun to get
better. Found out that the more i cut off contact and thoughts of
her from my life, the more bearable my current predicament is.
Music helps too, I've never been a music fan, but i've to really
thank Yanni for soothing me.
All in all, i just occupied as many senses as possible at one time,
so i didnt think of anything else, especially the relationship. I
multi task ... chat with ppl, while listening to music AND posting
in this forum.
For all those couples who r in a troubled relationship, I hv a gem
which a friend recommended to me. [b]http://www.fivelovelanguages.com/
Its a really easy to read book, and it makes sense. Reading this
book makes me realise what type of needs that i did not fulfil for
her, and what needs that I hv which is not fulfilled.
Essentially, this books tells us that everyone hv different needs -
and goes one step further to describe exactly what those needs r.
Im an eternal sceptic of self-help books, but this book really make
sense. Beg, borrow or steal one (no, u cannot hv my copy 
)[/b]
Good to hear you've taken up reading. 
From what I've read, this incident have certainly made you
grow.
Is it really a bad thing? Or is it a blessing in
disguise?
Learn your mistakes, and be a better person. If you truly love your
girl, and want her back, your change would speak loudest to
her.
