Originally posted by Prince Cumming:
If theres one problem which Ive been wrestling for the
past 4-5 years, its this pervasive sense of loneliness and
rejection.
Many times when I wake up in the morning or when Im in the midst
of doing something, my mind will be filled with this What is wrong
with me??!! thoughts
so much so that Ill sink into a depressive
state
My personal life has been like down in a slump for years
Ive only
a very few friends whom contact me once in a while and apart from
that, absolutely no relationships, no connection it seems with
anyone
My greatest problem is this increasingly strong feeling that[b] No
one is remotely interested in me--- its like people
hardly ever contact me, from the gals I tried to date to even my
current classmates
everybody is just plainly nonchalant towards
me.
Ive tried
from joining classmates for lunch after lectures,
studying with them, even taking up a hobby. So now my only form of
social interaction comes from formal activities like attending
classes (and then chatting a little with my classmates in the
process). Other than that, during most weekends and holiday, Ill
virtually be without any friends or relationship with anyone
its
like not a normal nor healthy phenomenon but one that I can do
little about....
[/b]
I agree with Devil
about the contacting them part; it never hurt trying to hook people
up, date them and organise outing.
One way is to work towards a common interest; people are less
likely to reject dates/outing when there is a common
interest/subject. I think there's a need for you to find that core
interest to pursue because from there, you will inevitable find
people of similar mindset/interest and forge great
friendship.
I made friends from several sources. Obviously not all of them will
turn out to be great friends, but when you scatter your seeds
randomly all over the place, surely, a few will develop well,
albeit most might just perish.
Let me try to form a logical picture/equation in your mind:
In school, you would probably have your school clique. These are
some friends.
If you go to church and is decently active in church activities,
you would have your religion clique.
Then when you expand slightly more; if you are involved in dance as
CCA, you would have some dance clique.
You get the idea.
The more interest you pursue, the more people you will know from
those activities and the higher the chance you will find good
friends. If you want to improve/retain your chance of making
meaningful friends beyond that of just 'good', you also got to work
on your personality so that people will find you comfortable,
interesting and most importantly, natural. Then they will include
you into their life/group/clique/etc.
P.S: People often want to be around people they feel comfortable
with. And to make them comfortable, firstly, they got to
accept/like your character first before they will be comfortable
with your presence in their life. 
Cheers
