why is my gf like this? are all women like this?

last SG · 2007-03-05T12:17:21+00:00

haha..dun worry guys.. i haf learned to move on. i do feel happier as the days pass actually. i feel that one day i will find that someone who deserves my si...

sickandtired SG

just felt like letting it out.

i was there for her when she was feeling down.
i helped her up everytime she fell.
i gave her all my attention even when others had appointments with me.
i sent her home everyday even though i stayed far away and had less than 3 hours sleep.
i was there to help her financially if she needed it.
i was there to console her everytime she complained and cried that she did something wrong at work.
i always put up with her tantrums and never once told her i wanted to break up.
i always let her know where i was or with whom and wat i was doing.
i always bought her clothes or other accessories but she never wore to let me see Sad
even when we did break up once and she wanted to patch back and cried, i was always there for her during the break up and eventually decided to patch back
i never once put up any photos with other gals in any website

but now.. suddenly some guy comes in between us playing the good guy and gives her advise.
now she says she is confused suddenly about our love but she denies being interested in him.
she now just wants to enjoy life with her frenz partying it out
she puts pics of herself n her male colleagues..some of them with arms on her in a website.
she removed our pics together and claims that its nothing.
she never stores my hp no in her hp but stores that of that bastard.
she calls up my female frenz and creates probs and now my female frenz and me dun really tok

i just feel so bored with this relationship. she has a huge character flaw and all her previous 15 relationships didnt work out. her only 2 longest one was 3 month n 6 months. mine lasted 5 yrs with her. i endured all her crapz and complains and everything. now suddenly she says we are not compatible? why then did she wanna patch up after we broke up?i really gave my all and tried my best but now i just feel i have failed. all other gals i know just tell me that i haf done so much for her and they wish that someone would do the same for them. i really dunno where i haf done wrong. i am tired of always suffering and just want to let all this go. but truth is i am afraid. i am afraid to be lonely. afraid that i will not find another person to love or look after. she does things wrong but blames me and i haf to apologise. she brings up the past and when i elaborate about it, it becomes i brought the past up. i feel she will never be happy in life because she always believes i will turn out like her adulterous uncle. she always like to think of negative things. i am so sianz now.. Sad

thanks for reading.

AndrewPKYap SG

oh oh…

FireIce SG

oh......

>pat pat<

though i no hear her side of the story (u know, it's always fair to hear both sides), i think u shd jus..........be on ur own for a while to straighten out ur tots (and let her do so too)

troubledme99 SG

Haiz.. dont do anything foolish leh bro.

sickandtired SG

yup i fully agree that its not fair that u never hear her side of the story. but i only decided to post this after a fren of ours who heard both of our stories agrees that wat she is doing is rather unfair to me..thats why i feel that i am right. i maybe wrong at times but i know my mistakes was not to shower lots of love to her. the kind of love she expects and the kind of love i give is different. and when i ask her wat kinda love she wants.. she says i shouldknow. and if i dunno means i dun understand her.. like this how?

allentyb SG

Did you pamper her too much?

AndrewPKYap SG

I think maybe you are "too much".

You try too hard. You suffocate her. Just because you are in a relationship does not mean that you have to be together all the time and do things together all the time. Get a life.

sickandtired SG

agreed.. i also feel that way.. that i suffocated her? but is it fair to put photos of others? why then is it that she can do this but i cant do the same thing? is it fair to me then?

mamamamama SG

your profile says you're 25 this year.

how old is she?

try to understand that after 5 years of being together with you, she might feel a little bored. your relationship with her might seem to be some sort of a "routine".

perhaps you could try spicing up your relationship by doing new things together. don't make everyday seem like a routine.

you mention that she wants to "enjoy life partying it out". why not try partying together with her and her friends?

sickandtired SG

i’m 25 n she is 24. i did try but everytime she ends up getting irritated by me over every small thing and the day gets spoilt. its like she has had enough. just feel so sad.. just need to pick up my life n move on. damn it

AndrewPKYap SG

Let her do whatever she likes. As long as she is still with you, that is the most important thing. If you have no wish to break with her, then just let her go and "flirt" around if she wants.

The harder you hold, the more they want to break free. The more you bo chap, the more they cling to you. Try it. If you let her go and she disappears for good, then she is not meant for you. The sooner you find out the better.

Did you read my "bad nut" article? My wife and I have such a good relationship because I totally bo chap and she can do whatever she wants.

Click to link:
Hey, life is too short to try to change people into something you would prefer. It is easier and much more peaceful to accept them for what they are.

allentyb SG

she has a change of heart already.......... there are many other pretty flowers out there, don't burn the whole forest because of a flower, since you and i are both of the same age, smile and cheers, after all, the population of woman in singapore are more than men, so take heed, go out there, and have some fun, let this be a lesson learn, after all life is just darn too short to spend on one woman only.

CannyOng SG

15 failed r/s?

She is just just spoiled chio bu who thinks that everybody in the world owns her

And u r a poor honest guy who is mesmerised by her beauty that u think u can ignored all her character fault until the stage u cannot take it!

Good that u wake up. Next time,find a gal who appreciates u!

browniebaobao SG

if she never appreciate the things that u do, then i think you deserve someone better.

sickandtired SG

i am not perfect either .. i haf my fair share of blames..but i never suggested any break up ever before .. and i also dun undestand why she cant forgive me if i did any mistake like hw i forgive her? like she didnt like me mixing with a gal who liked me..so i stopped contacting her. and now she mixes with someone who likes her. in fact..most ppl she mixes with likes her.. and she likes to go out with the same ppl .. and these ppl tell her things like they can replace me if i am not around.. if it was u.. will u be happy to let her go out with them? she just doesnt know how to make me feel secured. Sad

sickandtired SG

yup i certainly feel that way too. i just hope that someone better will come along.
in fact i just called her to find out if she still harbours any intention of wanting to be in the relationship still. she says she just wants to be alone and is not seeing anyone. anyway enough is enough. i hope she is happier in life and i hope i can move on.

browniebaobao SG

yup...

all the best~

firediviner SG

Find someone appreciative of you....

She is taking you for granted...

She juz want that safety net that you can provide...

And you must get out of this "comfort" zone by hanging on this relationship with her....

If you do, u will suffer.....

Space1999 SG

whatever you do , dont ask her to post here. because there is young and restless moderator looking for prey here..hehe

BrUtUs SG

since its so bad then jz leave her alone... she still wans all the fun n let her go now... when shes done with all tat maybe she might reali wake up n realise she lost a guy who care so much for her...