Originally posted by Yunhaier:
Goodness! Your
boyfriend is indulging in HEALTHY and DECENT hobby... I don't see
why there is a cause for concern, unless it drains too much
financial ability (which you would probably nag) or if he truly
neglects you in that sense. Would you rather your boyfriend spend
those precious dollars in nightclubs and fool around with slattern
woman?
That isn't my greatest shock - your man actually mention that he
willing to compromise if there is something he hasn't done well,
namely the way he treats you. If there are dissatisfaction with
regards to the quality of time spent, shouldn't you be talking to
him and letting him know that sometimes, you just wanna spent your
time together like movies and shopping? You could also arrange that
if he wants to do his photography, he would indulge in alone/with
friends and when he is done with it, he could meet you for a proper
date? You know that sort of thingy?
I always fear advice dispensed from random people, especially when
it is for with people I know, because some people don't understand
what wtf they are talking about and the consequence of their words
on these poor soul.
(I) Helping him when he is slack? In that way you would never leave
him? In the first place, why is there a requirement to leave the
relationship if your relationship is (1) what you want... (2) it
doesn't turn into an obsession/bondage... (3) doesn't ruin the
original model of love?
(II) To take down all his faults and when things go out of hand,
leave him? When you have noted a certain flaw, shouldn't you be the
first to let him know, in order to reduce certain intensity in the
relationship? Then you two could work together to resolve issues
and not dump him with all his blind spot as you condemn him?
[b]You are LEADING a
relationship; this is not a competition on who's personality is
more perfect my dear.
(III) And worst of all crime; don't tell your boyfriend anything.
Let him think.
OMFG!
Lemme translate that sh!t for you:
Eliminate communication and decentralization; allow
circumstances to control market force.
Your relationship will probably die sooner if you eliminate
communication and expect everything to be enlightened from nothing.
If you wants him to reflect on certain issues, you got to FIRST
speak to him before you could allow him some time to digest those
mambo jambo.
WTF is if he got heart for him, he will know what to do?
I throw the question back at you: if you got heart for him, do you
know what to do? And are you DOING it now? Doing it RIGHT?
P.S: Remember, you are in relationship that's truly yours. Should
your relationship fail, it doesn't affect D in any ways. You better
think twice about ruining something that could have much potential
to soar... with his 'advice'. 
Cheers [/b]
Thank you so much for the time in enlighten me.
I know what i should do. I will let BF know what is in my
mind.
Thanks.
