Confuse Relationship

last SG · 2006-12-22T14:34:43+00:00

my oh my ..... condolence.... take care man.... it sucks when life's twisted....

carlsonxjd SG

lololol.
if i were u
1Jan, wad happen why no reply. anything happen to him?
2Jan, nnb why no reply.
3jan @[email protected]#[email protected]#[email protected]#&&

maybe he go countdown. hp lost. Smile

Yunhaier SG

Siao!

I am rubbing chin and dwelling in deep thoughts. Twisted Evil

Cheers

storywolf SG

D - obvious someone who have a motive towards you. This type of people in wolf skin stay away.

D is just plain jealous of your bf and your relationship and want to break it up .
How can you trust D analyst - what ever he analyse is false - he just suit it to his need - that is to put your bf down and say bad things.

For godsake, how can you take a piece of paper and mark someone fault and slack ... and put a point to give up .... come on this D is qualify to give you any advice. Anyway the way D will make it everything your bf do will end up as a fault and slack, so no matter what D will ensure you tick and tick till the point of break up.

This is a clear case of sabotage ... by D which everyone here can see, why he do it - of course D for his own selfish reason - you.

Devil1976 SG

I'm cool with that.

Maybe when you 'feel' like talking about it or find the 'need' to, then you can PM me?

chaah SG

talking about HP off.
my side also have 2 or 3 times, my best excuse
1st time = put at friend car forget to take, so evening then reply me
2nd time = don't know why hp auto shut off
3rd time = hp low batt, but dnt know how to call me from public phone. i usually will inform him before it goes flat.

sigh..

mamamamama SG

KNN.

last time i also tio this kind of situation.

D is most likely interested in you and is trying to sow discord between you and your bf.

don't believe nvm. one day IF you really break with your bf then you will know the real motive of D.

a listening-ear should just stick to being one. listen and do not give comments. sometimes we just need someone/somewhere where we can let everything out. but do not let that someone be the cause of your breakup.

mamamamama SG

one more thing to add.

you and your bf would have shared many happy memories. memories that are unique to you, and only you alone.

don't let a jerk influence and make decisions for you. he is not u, and does not know how it feels like to be you.

chaah SG

hi thanks everyone for the concern.
yup now i am in cold war with him, seems like gonna blow off anytime. By the way, i have been sleepless for 3 days. The feeling is terrible, i hope everything will be fine for me but i will be strong no matter what's the outcome. I guess all of you stop scold D, yes D use to love me very much. But for some reasons we are not able to be together, so he is very protective towards me. And he is always there when i am hurts. Anyway i do not heed everything he say, usually i will think over and ask others for advice too.

Update on the issue
Things turn worst on 2 Jan 07, we had a sms heated up because of what i written on my blog (purposely announce our relationship) he got angry. Ask me to remove his contact from my blog. He don't want his online friends to know i am his girlfriend. After that he didn't talk / sms me. So at nite i sms him, is everything ok, if i done wrong i apologize. I ask him what happen to him after his business trip, he change alot.

3 Jan
sms me, he never change juz that i think and scare i talk too much to his new online friends and if he bring me back i will talk too much to his family.
He say believe i will not change, cos it's my character. (which most of my fren voucher i am not)

4 Jan; 8pm
(1st SMS)
i told him, i am hurt by his comments.
He told me sori if it hurts, but it's true. Then..
he told me he will not be free these season,
1) busy with religious event etc..
2) photo taking
3) need time to review our relation, coz he hope his future wife will not bring pro to him and his family.

(2nd SMS)
he said.
most impt issue, d day b4 he left for trips.
He dreamt of something came to his dreams, to caution a lady born in my yr will bring harm to his family due to her "Poison Mouth"

5 Jan
Totally never heard from him.
Unless i initate the sms.

So now do you people still think i have problem ?
Frankly i didn't say nor bad mouth anyone infront of him, i only tell him my family issue etc.. what i have been stress in house, but usually i don't tell him much. Coz he don't wish to listen. Which he mention b4 so i keep inside. Crying or Very sad

BrUtUs SG

ur guy is reali special and quite conservative…. u might reali need to reconsider ur relationship… but how did u two got together in the first place??? he last time got spent more time in chasing u???

chaah SG

Laughing tks for making me smile for the first attempt in my whole day.
Special ? haa...
know him coz he use to be supplier for my previous company, so he do delivery himself.
Yes chasing time, he spend almost thrice weekly. Company me for dinner and follow by beach stroll / chat.
Yes, i need to reconsider. Not because of conservative.
But how he treated me, because if a man can treat a lady so harsh before married. After married will be worst.

mamamamama SG

have you ever asked your heart for opinion?

sit down and really think through it.

from what you mention, he seems a little stubborn in his thinkings. refusal to listen and change could be a real problem.

give your relationship one last chance. let him know how serious this is. tell him whatever things you want to say. note that i said tell him, not vent your anger at him. if possible, make him tell you how he really feels.

when you finally trashed everything out together with him but still can't reach an agreement, then it would be best to end it. at least you'll feel much better.

chaah SG

Originally posted by mamamamama:
have you ever asked your heart for opinion?

sit down and really think through it.

from what you mention, he seems a little stubborn in his thinkings. refusal to listen and change could be a real problem.

give your relationship one last chance. let him know how serious this is. tell him whatever things you want to say. note that i said [b]tell him, not vent your anger at him. if possible, make him tell you how he really feels.

when you finally trashed everything out together with him but still can't reach an agreement, then it would be best to end it. at least you'll feel much better.[/b]

Hi Dear,
How i wish he would open his golden mouth to talk to me.
The problem with him and most hurting to me will be, no one is listening to me when i talk. My voice isn't heard.
He would have 2 reaction, either he divert the issue or he keep silent and smile Confused
Like you say, he is too stubborn to list to me. I have to listen to him, and he don't feel he have any problem. All the problems lies on my and i am the trouble maker.
i don't know what is the outcome, probaly the whole relation will blow over. Coz at this moment of time, the ball isn't in my court. Or rather to say i don't even know i want to stay not.
To stay i have to close eyes with all the faults and yell. Plus my voice will not be heard.
To leave i really have 1000 of "BU SHE DE" can't bear to go. Confused Crying or Very sad

The most impt part is i help him, in building his new business, from website to sourcing for suppliers, info datas, design of pamplets and reports for the equipments.
now everything is stable. Seems like he is throw me like rags.
Actually initially my friends has cautious me he might be using me.. Confused

BrUtUs SG

duno tats the smile u wan but i believe hes taking u for granted and he seems to be forgetting abt ur feelings... u should give him 1 last reminder or write him a letter of how u feel all along... if he still dun turn for the good, guess the end of the road is there n then... good luck...

BrUtUs SG

poor gal... he should reali wake up and cherish u..

chaah SG

Thank you so much for all the support i am drawing from here. Smile

BrUtUs SG

cheers and good luck...! hope u get the happy ending u wan...

mamamamama SG

if you choose to stay and salvage this relationship, how long do you think you can endure this? 3 months? 6 months? i think you'll go crazy sooner or later.

unless he decides to change for the better, just leave him. he isn't worth it.

i'll be praying for a miracle. good luck. Wink

Devil1976 SG

Hmm..

Devil1976 SG

Hmm..

binarynwitz SG

Your boyfriend sounds... very conservative, superstitious and MCP.

I mean, what? Dream of something telling him that someone born in your year would cause trouble to him and his family?

WTF?

You need to stop for a moment, and think about the relationship. Do you wish to become a "property" of him? From what I've heard, he seems to be a MCP, and honestly, if he can believe in such a stupid dream thing, I think you're better off without him.

Still, you have to make a decision on your own.

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