Originally posted by Yunhaier:
If you are going to
benchmark your love based on mutual company and how the lack of it
signifies a reduction in love and affection - your relationship is
going to hit a dead end sooner or later.
[b]Understand that the
more intense the fire burns, the faster it will extinguish
itself.
More of such scenarios are pending to arrive - if you are expecting
relationship to be uneventful, you face more insecurity and
disappointment.
It seemed to me that you are either a woman who totally abhor
changes or one that sees love as company. Not that it's wrong, but
overemphasise on one's company is unhealthy.
Broaden your mind and heart a little - don't be so narrow in
perspective. 
Cheers[/b]
Yes, i may be a little narrow minded in this, but we had juz met
2 days and talked in the phone for barely more than an hour and msn
another hour in the past 2 1/2 weeks, within one week after we are
officially together when we talked for hours daily juz before
that.
(This is the first weekend inthe past 3-4 mths that we didnt meet
up).
And to make things worse, i was also down cos of something
unfortunate happened at work.
And as if things arent bad enough, during the 2 1/2 weeks, i tried
not to disturb him too much, so i barely called him. But all the 4
times that i called him, he also didnt answer the calls, though he
had returned my calls perhaps some 15min to half hour later. Due to
the lack of time spent and therefore lack of communication too, i
really feel so alone, and he is not there for me too (i am really
upset by the unfortunate things that happened in office. he is
aware of this).
A relationship may not be all about companionship, but it is
companionship that helps both parties understand each other, forge
understanding and therefore the growth of emotional attachment,
isnt it? Without being there, how can you assure your loved ones
that 'you are there' for the person? to be the pillar of support
for your loved ones?
I also understand that relationship can be eventful and full of
obstacles, but 'different level' of relationship can only handle
the stress levels in that stage, no? For example, 2 people in a
relationship of 2 years, may be able to manage a LDR in the event
the guy/gal needs to go overseas to work for half year. Do you
expect a relationship of 2 months to be able to handle that?
Yes, the more intense the fire burns, the faster it will extinguish
itself. But do not let the fire be so small, hoping that it will
last. Because, the fire may juz be so small and weak, that it goes
off anytime. 
