I have married to a HK wife, and relationship has been 3.5
years. My son is singaporean, already 2.5 years old. She dont like
the life in SG, as it boring and lesser money to spend. She is a PR
and not working, and as far as i know she is unwilling to work in
SG reason to unacceptable low wages.
It seems that i have been giving in to her for the past 3 years. I
have been working hard, and trying my best to bring in more money;
changing higher paid job and requesting for more increment from
employer. Financially, i would say making ends meet, take home pay
of about 2.5k per mth. With theses, every mths spending is tight,
with little saving for buying tickets to HK every year.
I have done my parts as a husband and father. Trying to help my
wife, I have actually promised her to go HK to find settle a living
and work. And my wife is in HK now, with my son. I have been doing
it slowly and openly to what my intention and plan.
Somehow, i started to realise that my family will not be
financially stable and secure if i going to settle in HK. Its
almost like starting all over again. And too many uncertainties
that lies ahead.
I did mention to my wife that I am not able to financially support
you and son a living while im working in SG. I have to secure my
job, while she is trying to settle down based on her account.
Requirement is to rent a flat, provide son's education and her
stable job for 2 mths. In return, she said that im not responsible
of taking care of the family and Im leaving problems for her to
solved in HK.
I guess, 2.5K per mth is not a lot, if i incluede air ticket to
visit my son per mth, housing and insurrance liabilities,
allowances and if i were to go HK, i need some saving to secure an
empty house for at least 6 mths.
Im in despair, as she has ask for a divorce, and will not return to
SG forever, including my son. I dont see that i have done anything
wrong, yet she stated me as a failure, useless and selfish
person.
Till now, the only mistake that i have made is that i have promise
her to go HK to find liviing and work. But that doesnt mean that
she has force me to surrender, as if i have owe her the entire
life. She has to contribute, sensible, and mindful what she is
doing now. In all, I just want to say, I cant affort to follow the
blind and gullible, due to my concern of family and my son.
Before i would proceed to say more.. I would need some opinions and
comments in my married life. And a question of how can i bring my
son back to SG without a passport. Im thinking of a 'emergency
exit'.
