I juz shed a tear for her....

last SG · 2007-02-11T10:33:17+00:00

1: she don wish to break the friendship but scare to reject u also. 2: she thinks that the time is not right hence she will wait until certain time then wil...

clueless007 SG

haiz, got to know her thru a fren 2 mths ago. It wasnt a crush or smth, but i began to hv feelings for her. About 1 mth ago, i confessed tt i liked her but she doesnt noe whether she likes me anot.. I had a Don't Know for an answer. Even after the confession, she still sms me, talk on the phone and goes out with me. Just when i thought that things are changing for the better and i wanna confess to her again on valentines' day, her fren told me that she is still unsure of her own feelings, saying that she doesn't know whether she likes me anot as the feeling is weak. I wonder why does she continue to go our with me, i would rather she makes up her mind and gives me a clear yes or no.. As the time goes by, i think i'll really fall deeper in love with her but now, i don't know what to do.. I told myself that i will never ever shed a tear for any1 else other than my ex but it seems that after 5 years, it happened again...

I'm really confused now... should I ask her on v day?? if it's a yes then fine, if it's a no, i think i'll give up.. But i seriously do not know how am i supposed to react if she tells me DON'T KNOW.. Or, i should just enjoy the unspoken feelings and leave it as it is.. no commitments nothing but i'm not really the kind of person who likes to leave things dangling in midair..

Darkness_hacker99 SG

Maybe You can organize v-day outing with the girl and some close friends. Uses this chance to get near her. I know you are a very sentimental guy, me too Crying or Very sad . Give her more time, let her know you'll always be there for her. Embarassed GIve her time to think. And Don't Rush her. Wink

bladez87 SG

hey! you sounded just like me 1 year ago. yea advice would be to just ask her out 1 last time, give her a good time let her be happy, and if u send her home, just ask her yes or no. if yes good, no...lol i having trouble moving on.

but yea if during the date u see she not v happy or what, u know GG liao

clueless007 SG

i’m going out with her on vday.. ok, c how bah.. but love this kind of thing, like means like, dun like means dun like, i’m starting to hesitate whether wanna ask anot, cos if it’s a no, then cant even be frens le. if we maintain the way it is now,still can last longer. I think i’m also a bit selfish, dun wanna lose her companionship…

nanren4ever SG

2 mths and u confess to her? What u expect her to say seriously? I know, people like to say strike while the iron is hot, but 2 months is a damn short time to know someone. You can go out with the person almost every single day, and yet at the end of the day, can u really say u know her well?

Look at it this way, at least she said I don't know, means u still have a chance. Who knows, u may succeed by being persistent!

Devil1976 SG

Too bad... Often you can't have the best of both worlds in this kinda scenerio...

How old are you by the way?

Kuali Baba SG

Go ahead and ask her out, and let go of any expectations.

Pitot SG

how old are you? Confused

Go ahead and ask her out.

Don't give her too much pressure. The last thing you don't want is to feel pressure from someone who isnt ur other half yet.

slow and steady wins the race la.

If u cant wait, den dont wait.

missqi SG

uh huh so.

sheri SG

Some people need more time bah. Maybe you can ask her out another day instead of Valentine , and make it a Valentine mood type of dinner. At least less pressure for her to make a decision NOW, and yet u still maintain the chance to meet her up in future?

wonderamazement SG

How can you tell? Rolling Eyes

maxlee SG

Hey, its V-day. But then again, ask her out with a normal heart. Since you barely know each other. Takes this chance to have fun! Plan a group outing.

clueless007 SG

i’m 21.. actually true la 2mths very short… i’ll be persistent but at times i juz feel like giving up.. but once i c her again, the feeling comes back le.. thx anyway, i noe wad to do le.. slow and steady… but also cannot too slow, muz c the correct place, correct time, correct feeling…

Yunhaier SG

Love is never black and white - in fact, it's often grey.

You are too hasty?

You don't allow love the room to develop or grow and demand that it appear to her like it has for you? Continue in this reckless fashion, you will probably experience much rejection without fully understanding why. Idea

Cheers

mystee SG

give her more time.. since she is unsure.. as for y she is still going out with u.. maybe becos she want to c how is the feeling like.. she is giving herself a chance.. as well as giving u a chance.

skedaddle SG

well i think you should give her some time and don't be impatient even though you may not like leaving things hanging in mid-air. as for why she still hangs out with you and stuff like that is probably becus she doesn't hope this issue will cause an air of awkwardness between the both of you. she does want to be friends with you, at the very least.

anyhows, all the best to you Wink

mayday80 SG

keep going. Let the unsureness lead to an ending ‘yes’ or ‘no’. If you wait for her to decide at her own time… chances are high that the answer is going to be a ‘NO’. Of course, you should always be as nice to her as always in the meantime…

spycampers SG

Originally posted by clueless007:
[b Just when i thought that things are changing for the better and i wanna confess to her again on valentines' day,

her fren told me that she is still unsure of her own feelings, saying that she doesn't know whether she likes me anot as the feeling is weak.

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idiot..
u said so clear.. that is her fren said..
IS not HER who said it to U!!!!!

anyway.. her friend sometime doesn't really get the best info..
or she may be shy to tell her friend her true feeling or whatever..
or her friend just any o how... talk c*ck sing song.

just do what u normally do.
and when u find is the right time.
just kiss her. hold her hand.. etc.
or u super good... F her..

sometime.. this work better than ASK if she want to be ur stead.

spycampers SG

Anyway... dun get pressure just because of v-day is round the corner,
then u ka lang ka bo..

learn how to play the game.
and take it in mind that if there love between u and her.
everyday is v-day..

so take it easy..
dun pressure her and urself.

keep ur cool..

another way u can take into consideration is
meet her out on 13 feb instead.
make it the outing last as long as possible..
til midnight ..
then u the first one to be with her on v-day..
and u can tell her whatever u want to her..

spycampers SG

feel like giving up is losing the game..
dun give up.
u are creating -ve for urself.

one of the thing is that human got +ve and -ve "energy"
girls can sense ur + - ve "energy".
( guys sadly to said are less sensitive to sense the "energy")

girls tend to be draw to +ve energy.
so keep ur +ve energy UP!!!!

this is one of the reason..
why u see those guys with face kanna gone over by truck
( and they not F*cking rich)
manage to have superb chio gf..
this is one of the reason..
they keep their +ve energy up..