bloody ungrateful sister

countdracula SG

your parents were not around her very much and this sudden intrusion into her life can be distressing for her…..your family should spent more time getting to know her all over again before doing the parenting stuff…..

coffeeortea SG

dude.. have a heart to heart conversation with her.. thats your sister you're talking about.. we dont know her. Wink

trust me, if you dont talk to her.. who will?

mistyblue SG

people are always ungrateful. I’ve never met anyone whose grateful untilI tell them the service or items I provided them, they have to be paid for.

manyu882 SG

play reverse psychology. ask her go back instead and dont come back ever

buses_galore SG

Double Post

buses_galore SG

Haging out with a malay guy???Could he have influenced her?

Devil1976 SG

Make up for her loss?

Probably won't be so easy though... Takes much time and patience...?

alegna_t13 SG

I think what you can do is try to be her friend. Let her open up to you.

There may be generation gap between your sis and your parents, and she may be feeling angry at them for having 'abandoning' her.

Be the bridge between your parents and her.

Slowly try to reason and convince her why your parents had to send her to Grandma's. Make her see that your parents do love her but dun let her noe your parents guilt or she may just play on it and become an even bigger problem.

And also try to ask your parents to be more patient with your sis.

I guess it's the least that you can do as her brother.

It's not going to be easy but if you don't do it, nobody else can.

Jia you... Smile

M©+square SG

Do not count on it.... Confused

nanren4ever SG

Look, how do u think u would have felt if u were the one who were "given away", and put to stay with ur grandparent instead? Then for so many years, only because ur brother/sister is going somewhere else liao, then ask u come back to stay.

My guess would be that she felt that ur parents do not really care about her in the first place, and that they were biased against her, and making her stay with someone else rather than with u people. As u people grow together as a family, it seems like she is now an outsider. Of course she will feel that ur parents do not love her. Plus, her being forced to break up with her bf only makes matters worst.

Try talking to her, and tell her that even though she never stays with u people, all of u love her. That's what she needs, not scolding or a slap.

sheri SG

I actually pity her a little. She was really the chosen one of live with your grandmother. Why not try to treat her like a good friend, know her better, bring her to outings etc. Let her feel that she still has a family that loved her (Despite choosing to let her, and not u stay with GM).

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