Hi TS, look at the bright side. There're many more worse fathers
in the world. 
When I was very young, my dad bashes up my mother as and when he
likes. As far as I can remember during my primary school days, he
likes to grab my hair and bang my head towards the lift wall and
the walls in my home. While in sec sch he used the boken which I
used for my sports to attack me obviously aiming at my head.
Luckily I blocked with my arm with several severe bruises on it. On
many occasions, he threatened to kill me by grabbing a knife from
the drawer everytime I do not do anything according to his demands.
Being young, I was just simply immature and didn't have the
rational to think will he really kill me. I just ran away out of
the house as quickly as I could and not get home until my mother is
home. He only stopped after the very first time I fought back by
kicking him and he fell down. That was slightly more than 10 years
ao when I just entered poly.
After ending his physical violence on me, he'd turn to use verbal
abuse and he particularly enjoy cursing at me that I will hang
myself to death in my NS days because I will not stand the life
inside. Anyway I signed on and ORD in one piece 2 years back.
What's most saddening was that instead of attacking me a grown
adult, he continued to pick on my weak mother. He even used my
motorcycle helmet to attack my mother by throwing it at her with
great force.
The irony, when I called the cops, he acted pitiful and said he
will never hurt his family and he loves his children and wife. When
I moved out of the house after my marriage, my mother applied for
PPO. After 1 year, ironically, my father filed for divorce. He
thought he's going to get 50% of the house with a divorce,
definately a good deal since he paid only a couple of thousands out
of the 60 over thousands of the house. Even in the courtroom, he
lied to the judge on and on and on endlessly on many issues. His
trademark behavior: only pick on the weak, play victim &
lying.
Initially my mother do not want to 'bully' him and wanted to give
him 25% for the house. But at the end of the legal battle, the
judge gave my mum 80% and the remaining 20% to my father.
I have not seen my father since 2003 SARS period shortly after I
got married when I moved out. I don't know how he looked and forgot
how he sounds now. My sister has also went to Australia to get her
degree and my mother having the whole house to her while waiting
for the documentations to settle sell the house this Sept is living
a new life. I still meet up my mother and email my sister. Despite
my many attempts to convince my mother to move into my house which
I prepared a room for her ever since I moved in, she refused. She
has never experienced such life to live without fear that the man
next door will ever bash her up again. And she want to relive the
life she was deprived of for decades.
But I know there are worse fathers in the world & the only
reason why I stay away from my father is that he is the sort who'd
resort to any lies to get his ways. I am not surprised that he
pretend to fall down and accuse someone of assaulting him to get
something out of it. Definately a very dangerous person to
associate with.
