why it become like this

owenfab SG

when i first entered this company, got along quite well with this female colleague at first, chatted with her in msn and few smses...

however, i duno wat had happened but things seemed to go different recently, it seems that this colleague is avoiding me, but this is where i duno what had gone wrong...

even though she had a bf, but i dun think tis is the reason cos i din even do anything funny...be it in office or even online

smudgey SG

well maybe she is just drawing the line.

i had one friend in poly who did that, what happened in my case was, he heard ppl gossiping saying that i like him.... hence he thought to not give wrong impression, he avoided me. well in his case, he was wrong. i treated him like a big bro and nothing more...

either you confront her, just ask her if you did anything to offend her? or let the matter rest.

try talking to her and hinting abt liking other gals... if she opens up to u after that, it means what i said above is true

BrUtUs SG

office politics, scandals...

UandMe SG

probably some kaypo people go and tell her u like her, that's why she distanced herself.

nanren4ever SG

That's the problem sometimes. If you too friendly to people, u scared give people wrong impression. And then u do the avoidance stuff so as not to give the person wrong impression. But the problem is, won't a budding friendship be wasted in this case?

Sometimes, I just wonder if it is really that hard to make friends with the opposite sex.

For ur case, I would suggest that u should ask her if she's avoiding u. No use trying to guess what she's thinking. Tell her that u felt that she's avoiding u, and ask if anything's wrong. Assure her that u two are merely friends, nothing more.

mase101 SG

Have you checked whether your back got knifes or not?

Devil1976 SG

Ya.. Just look around Sgforums and you'll understand... < Laughing >

shutterpod SG

must be that her friends think that you’re a leecher or something and told it to her.now that shes avoiding you thinking you want her for sex or something

redpicanto SG

1) Rumours spread that she's a two timer.
2) Her bf saw u msn or sms her not happy, quarral with her and ask her to stay away from u.