Trust

last SG · 2007-01-02T02:53:42+00:00

white lies are fine… but if the friend purposely do it to hurt you then different story…

Capricieux SG

People~

In a friendship, what if the very basic level of trust has dissolved?

Is there any way to save this relationship or is it completely doomed?

hatemeifuwantto SG

it might be save..but depends on the scenario..so wassup?

mcfadden SG

Let us know the full story la. Very Happy

Capricieux SG

Is it necessary to post what has already happened and been resolved already?

Just what if one day, you find that you've become sceptical of everything your friend tells you?

browniebaobao SG

Give chances ba..

Perhaps last time I would have sever all ties with that fren, but now..

if that fren feels guilty, I choose to forgive and trust one more time..

Whatever happened has happened.. you can't change it..

since it has already past, then look ahead and move on lor.

mhcampboy SG

Distrust between friendships should be ended. No point being friends anymore. Betrayal by friends is much more hurtful in sense of pride and social status.

Its different from having a gf/bf. They betray you they come and they go. But your friend remains. You having problems, your friend remains.

Friendship should be held sacred. The bond is the spirit. The trust is the sacrifice. Bad sacrifice must be thrown away and never be served.

If you cannot trust a friend anymore, no point being together. Trust me on this.

buses_galore SG

I think it is hard to salvage Very Happy

lonestar86 SG

BEWARE!!
Human cannot be trusted!!
Laughing

username0 SG

what if u know a person who keep lying to get into your good books? he fervently support one set of beliefs (not religion!) in front of you and then u find out he totally follow another set of beliefs in his private life? (just for eg. he says he loves to play pool and play pool every other day. then u found out hardly touch pool at all one. OR he say he is a huge fan of computer game X but u found out he dun even have the game installed at home etc)

a bit too fake for me but i can't really confront people abt this without turning ugly.

Devil1976 SG

So what has been 'resolved' already?

xShevchenkox SG

bbb..u are like 1 of my guy frenz

l tink it is very impt to give chances to ppl..seriously..rather than giving cold shoulders to ur frenz who have done sumtinz wrong...

Givin ppl a chance is impt if the person has feel remorse or regretted over his/ her actions .. if he change and become better..it is really worth givin the person a chance..

Unless he commit his/her mistakes again and again..l tink this kind suan le bah

BrUtUs SG

depends la... it might still heal but it all builds up... but if u still can return to normal better to stay away...

browniebaobao SG

i give chance also becoz i known her for 14 years liao..

we have been thru a lot..

and we shared dreams, and have a picture of each other in our future..

perhaps as one gets older, u will realize that few things really matter.

felirox SG

Just try to make up things by helping her in anyway?

Capricieux SG

Smells like lack of self-confidence to me.

NotFromVenus SG

Sometimes people indulge in their own self glorification and forgotten their own betrayal of integrity.

Mad

Capricieux SG

My friend and I had a minor argument. From there I finally realised ever since a few months ago a very very big crack has appeared in this friendship of ours. I don't want to go into details. Wink

When the right time comes - hopefully soon- I hope to be able to have a good talk with her about this. The talk will most probably turn ugly, but will either make it or break it. No point dragging on... like how bad skin is still ugly no matter how much concealer you pile onto it.

Thank you for all your views!

Well let's keep the discussion going, shall we? Mr. Green

Capricieux SG

Huh?

Care to elaborate?

NotFromVenus SG

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(human) SG

It is more shameful to distrust our friends than to be deceived by them.