Parents and Children's Privacy

dreameryb SG

Suppose your father has a good friend who says s/he needs to get in touch with you for some reason. However, you don’t know that person at all. If in this circumstance your father gives your contact details (email, phone number) to that friend of his, without asking for your permission first, how would you feel?

dragg SG

your father's friend want to get in touch with you?

alexkusu SG

Parent’s right usually overule any privacy and what not’s children may have.

TYING SG

insist on not picking up any calls or replying any e-mail.

Tt fella might mao2 shou3 mao2 jiao3 with you... Very Happy

missqi SG

No!
Father > father's friend.
just tell ur dad.

countdracula SG

if my good friend wants to get in touch with my child, i would insist on knowing the purpose. if i approve the reason, i would be the one to tell or arrange that contact.

hisoka SG

it really depends on whats it for.

if its for business or to get some help with procedures etc its fine though informing is a must. afterall its only a number and you can always say no.

if its like insurance/sales etc then no.

dreameryb SG

It was for a very innocuous reason, basically to ask for my advice on something that I have some expertise on.

hisoka SG

well if its nothing much and not much bother i would say its ok to give the phone number. after all its only a phone number although i would expect a call or telling me that his friend would call.

if it requires more work then i would say they need to get your permission, just a call asking questions for 5 mins which are no bother i feel no permission needed but informing just to prevent you from getting suspicious or whatever.

browniebaobao SG

i'll answer his calls and see what he's up to lor.

TYING SG

den i will slam down the phone after answering finish. Laughing

Dating Specialist SG

Well if its that's the case, then just be a darling and give that poor man a hand. That's what friends are for isn't it? Your father is his friend's savior for having a son like you who's the expert in that area!

On another hand, maybe you can use this case as a lead-in to explain to your father that you would appreciate he get his friend's contact and pass it to you to call instead of giving away yours, since you don't seem to feel comfortable about it (from your first post)

His friend will have his questions answered, you have the control of when to call, and you keep your privacy. Win-win! Very Happy

If this is a first case, probably your dad didn't know about your preference. Communicate to him and let him see the reason.

I did that with my mom too, and from then on she won't give my mobile away or agree to do something for her friends on my behalf without asking me first. Smile

Devil1976 SG

I think different people might hold a different level of 'privacy' for his / her own contact(s)... If you're not interested or even comfortable with that person, you can always choose not to entertain that person? You can even let your dad knows you're not comfortable with what he's doing.