IS this absurd?

last SG · 2006-12-03T10:17:15+00:00

tell him nicely but don’t hurt his feelings…

Amber20 SG

many ppl said those NS guys with gf have nothing big to worry except worry of BING BIAN ( means GF change heart when her bf is in ns) .
Reasons due to it is:
(1) no time to acc HER
(2) cant share with HER saddness or happiness everyday
(3) NS guys BOTAK liao, SHE might find that he is not attractive anymore..
OTHER look nicer.
(4) cant stand loneliness
(5) don't understand e tireness in NS

and many more reasons ..

but my relationship is very different wor..

(1) he have no time to acc me.. i don mind.. two weeks meet once.. is ok de..
(2) he cant share with my saddness or happiness everyday but not even often..
(3) my bf is not BOTAK, i never find him not attractive anymore..
OTHER look nicer, So?
(4) i can stand loneliness coz i have to work almost everyday..
(5) i k understand e tireness in NS. i willing to go until that far to find him..
but do he appreicate? NO NO NO..

But i never BING BIAN le.. how would i wish i k..
but y does i just cant give up on him .. i am really very different from other gal who BING BIAN but why my bf still
like very cold towards me? take me 4 granted?

doesnt this sound absurd?

Ito_^ SG

stress it to him lor. some guys very ci duen one. they dun see problems coming until the last second and they go WTF!? Laughing

dokono SG

Perhaps he is one of those kind of people who are very relaxed towards the relationship. Can you give examples of being cold to you?

doko

Amber20 SG

(1) k two day reply or sms me once..
(2) never care for me..
(3) never say he wan to meet me..
(4)tell him this guy and tat guy wan to woo me,
he don care..
(5) tell him i worry for him, he still never reply..
(6) when he need me, he will come and find me.
when he don need me, he will just don care about me..

blu_sky SG

when he need you, he will go and find you. when does he need you? and wat do you guys do? how often does he find you?

molgax SG

erm how i wish i had a nice gf who has this kind of character

Amber20 SG

he need me when his frenz not free to meet him ba..
he does not find.. he will want to meet me.. maybe meet at his house near by..
we meet once in two weeks time..

rainee SG

u know it is absurb so just dump him Cool

uglypig SG

hmmm, maybe he change liao ba. In army, not only girls change, guys will also change. For my case, is not i change, is my ex changed. so sad loh. this type of guy, dump him for your own good. Smile

mayday80 SG

Originally posted by Amber20:
(1) k two day reply or sms me once..
(2) never care for me..
(3) never say he wan to meet me..
(4)tell him this guy and tat guy wan to woo me,
he don care..
(5) tell him i worry for him, he still never reply..
(6) when he need me, he will come and find me.
when he don need me, he will just don care about me..

What the hell do u expect him to do? I'm sure inside he must be pissed... maybe he even think u are going to do ur 'bing bian'.

pierre^^ SG

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dokono SG

(1) two day sms not enough? At least he still msged you? He probably did not do it to other girls? But since you are the girlfriend he msg you. What do you want him to msg? It's not manly for a guy to get mushy you know.

(2)never care for you? Please explain.

(3)Just wait for him to contact you to meet him. You are a bit on the sensitive? Or better still, why don't you ask him to meet you? Call him.

(4) At least, he never gets jealous. What do you expect him to do? Cage you?

(5) Worry for him? He is probably busy in NS. Has time to reply you? What do you have to worry over him here? Everyday worry over him? You are giving yourself unnecessary pressure here. Relax ok?

(6) Don't say until like he doesn't care for you. If that is true, perhaps you rushed into the relationship in this case. He needs to have a life outside you know.

In conclusion, I don't think this guy has done anything wrong. Maybe you think too much? He is still going out with you. Your life don't just revolve around this guy also.

doko

dokono SG

yeah exactly...he might have felt squeezed.

doko

deathscythe99 SG

True and true Wink

Skibi SG

Can pm me.

mystiv SG

1) you mean he never sms you at all, or sms you just once?

either way, i find it unacceptable Laughing

3) persistant 'syndrome'?

4) is he usually passive, and shy that kind?

Squiggly SG

Rolling Eyes Amber20... think you should just let him do what he want lor... One thing I don't understand... you mean he started to behave differently once he start to serve his NS? He no longer behaves like he was last time?

At this age, I think both of you are still changing... Will be good if you have the space to explore and understand what you really want from a man... If all you need is attention, perhaps, you should directly let him know wat you want... Guys don't like to guess... and don't assume they should know... cos they don't.

But that doesn't mean he don't love you.... I'd suggest you have a good talk with him... don't jump into baseless conclusions...

All the best yeah?

ironpeasant SG

Girls should serve NS, and they will understand Mr. Green

Sakuraflower SG

what is ur is ur .....

what is not ur is not ur...

it will come back on the own if it is ur...

"dot dot" worry so much also not used... think so much waste energy... think of other things...

BrUtUs SG

since u feeling tis then tell him lo...