Help I Suffering From Stupidity and Laziness

Cystaire SG

Originally posted by fudgester:
Just to add on, Cystaire:

Why do you want to compete against all the other trainees? In the end, all of you have a common goal, that is, to work in life sciences. Stop seeing it as a competition and start seeing it as a mutual effort towards a common goal. Instead of competing and comparing yourself against others, why don't you just focus on trying to improve yourself?

Forget about trying to be someone else. Just focus on being a better Cystaire.

To sum it all up: the enemy is not out there. The enemy is within yourself.

You are the only one who can truly stop yourself from becoming a better person.

Thanks for your comments, but you are not aware of the reality in science. Sad

huiz SG

ren bi ren, qi si ren. stop comparing.

fudgester SG

I am, however, aware of the reality in mechanical engineering.

Here, it's cut-throat competition between the mechanical engineering undergrads. Here, if you're not an honours student then you're technically below average. There are people who would actually refuse to help others because they see them as 'the enemy'.

I refuse to engage in such behaviour; I see my fellow undergrads as people who share a common goal as I do. For every imbecile who thinks that everyone else is a potential enemy, I know of others who would willingly share and help each other.

For goodness' sake... stop comparing yourself to others already. Don't try to be someone else; just focus on being a better Cystaire. I don't try to be this bugger who gets CAP 5.0 or this guy who gets into the Dean's List every semester; I just try to be a better Fudgester.

If everyone else zigs, then you should zag. If everyone else sees each other as enemies, then you should start seeing them as friends.

I've said it once; I'll say it again:

THE ENEMY IS NOT OUT THERE. THE ENEMY IS WITHIN YOURSELF.

Cystaire SG

My friend you are NOT aware of the reality of mechanical engineering.

You haven't even graduated yet. Smile

TYING SG

You never know that there are people who are worse off than you. Its considered admirable that you are even a scientist.
Remember, "Let the person perform the Art he loves most". If you are extremely interested in science, you should have more confidence and substitute your negative points with some other aspects. Like creativity?

Also, everyone in this world will have their own expertise, just believe in yourself. Let the others be, they might seem to be in a better position because they have manage to overcome or avoid their weaknesses. Do that too and you will surpass them one day.

Have faith in yourself and i will have faith in you too. Good luck and not dwell on it anymore.

fudgester SG

Say what you will. I may not have graduated, and I still say that I'm pretty much aware of the reality of mechanical engineering. Suffice to say that you don't know enough about me to make such a claim.

I know you might see me as naive, but that is not of interest to me.

At the very least I do not depress myself into thinking that everyone out there is an enemy to me. I'm trying to offer you a solution for you to get out of your depressing state; and yet all you do is whine about how you 'suffer from stupidity' and how you 'suffer from laziness'.

Intelligence and effort are relative things; what is smart and hardworking to one is dumb and lazy to another. So how? Can you work non-stop 24/7 so that the whole world will finally start seeing you as intelligent and hardworking?

Which is why I keep telling you: stop comparing yourself to others! I'm asking you to shift your mindset away from those self-destructive tendencies, and yet you still choose to persist having such a mindset!

People here are trying to help you; yet I see that you refuse to help yourself. The only true solution is a paradigm shift in your viewpoint of things; and you still insist in seeing things your way. Continue whining then; you'll find yourself remaining in the very same position you were at the beginning of this thread.

Very well. I've had my say. Good luck to you.

Cystaire SG

Originally posted by fudgester:

Say what you will. I may not have graduated, and I still say that I'm pretty much aware of the reality of mechanical engineering. Suffice to say that you don't know enough about me to make such a claim.
I know you might see me as naive, but that is not of interest to me.

At the very least I do not depress myself into thinking that everyone out there is an enemy to me. I'm trying to offer you a solution for you to get out of your depressing state; and yet all you do is whine about how you 'suffer from stupidity' and how you 'suffer from laziness'.

Intelligence and effort are relative things; what is smart and hardworking to one is dumb and lazy to another. So how? Can you work non-stop 24/7 so that the whole world will finally start seeing you as intelligent and hardworking?

Which is why I keep telling you: stop comparing yourself to others! I'm asking you to shift your mindset away from those self-destructive tendencies, and yet you still choose to persist having such a mindset!

People here are trying to help you; yet I see that you refuse to help yourself. The only true solution is a paradigm shift in your viewpoint of things; and you still insist in seeing things your way. Continue whining then; you'll find yourself remaining in the very same position you were at the beginning of this thread.

Very well. I've had my say. Good luck to you.

Thanks for your opinions, but I wasn't whining and I am not depressed. Smile

I was hoping that somebody who has been doing science will come up and we'll have some sort of "blue ocean" discussion.

fudgester, you must feel exasperated about why you can't seem to convince me, but when you actually enter industry one day you will understand what I am talking about.

Cystaire SG

Thanks for your concern.

I am not disputing that there are people who are worse off than any of us. But knowing that fact doesn't help. I am saying that if you are doing science, there will be times you feel like the stupidest and laziest person alive.

I know you guys still don't know what I am saying. I agree I shouldn't dwell on this, and should end this discussion.

OwenMania SG

hi, i had similar problems with you when i was in the university.

after i grad, i work for various companies and had quite a good progress in my career.
from my point of view, its ok for you to feel "inadequate". but put it as a positive way so that it drives you forward

smart students dont necessarily do well in their career.
because a good worker/enterpreneur need to possess many many other skills rather than just be good a certain topics/subjects/fields.
for example, he has to manage finance, relationship, time-management, risk and so on...

you probably want to become the best in something, but life is fair. if you are super-good in something, like bio-research, you could probably cock-up your other skills.

i am trying to convince myself to change this mindset. it's not easy, especially i grow up in very competitive environment since young. but well, its worth the effort!

good luck!

the_fallen SG

yes, there is,
cure = discipline + attitude.

although this is personal thing, but if you can get someone who you 100% listens to get monitor you. than it will be over in no time and you will be a better person

Meat Pao SG

No....dont think like that.....

1. There are always people more clever than me.

---> True, definitely there are always people who are more clever, or richer, or more good-looking, or more this and that.

There are also people who are less clever, less rich, less good-looking, less this and that, than you.

So....should you bother about them? Dont waste your attention on that.

Simply focus on yourself and embetter yourself.

2. There are people more dilligent than you.

---> What I find is that you are comparing midnight to 3am. This tells me that you are already hardworking, and in fact you need to take a more balanced life, not only work work work all the time.

Just lead a balanced life, and you will be happy. Life is not only work.

Uncle Meat Pao.

Ito_^ SG

even if im doing wad i like and wanted now, i oso suffer the same problems as you.

its is a very dark and dangerous world sia. Laughing touch no touch will kana eaten up one.

Wega007 SG

so stress out..
if the entire Singapore population is like U.. I think all those ITE and some ppl working on DL here and some in Ulu, $$ making Uni all can jump b4 U already!
maybe kids in Primary school can find reason to see the world is your competitor. in that case, they can too jump!

aiglosicicle SG

there will always be someone better than you. and even if you become better than that specific someone you will soon find that there is someone even better than you. never ending one lar.

just find a level that you are happy at and stay there and be glad that you are better than some people.

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