I would have guessed it; the meaningless
promise and an endless wait, because those are elements of
stagnation that deprive us of growth. From here, I would have
presume that you and him have undergo several break-patch cycle
that probably ends at that final irrevocable break up at the end of
five years.
Your relationship was given MORE than one chance to work out. I
don't know how much failures would you need before you would
understand that some things are never meant to be and when you try
to force your way in, the situation becomes ugly. 
You have spent seven and half years
wandering in limbo; are you going to up the stake to ten years?
Fifteen years? Or more?
Your mind is resisting the fact that you should get on with life.
Resolve the bondage by telling yourself: don't cry because it's
over, smile because it happened.
Have that critical understanding of 'chen jin yong you' instead of
'tian chang di jiu'.
NEVER presume that the one we feel the most intense for, is the one
we love the most because this could jolly well be a karmic
relationship on your part, disguising as 'the one you love most'.
Of course in a perfect scenario, it would have been logical and
easy to say that we should always settle for the one we love most -
but how often does this situation occurs? If divorce rate stands at
a steady 33.3%, then the phenomenon of settling with someone, other
than the ones we love most, would be even higher.
Looking at this situation, if you reckon that the one you love most
is him (and abandoned the theory of karmic relationship
completely), how confident are you to say that the marriage
wouldn't end up in divorce, considering that it couldn't even last
through a BGR?
It's not a question of love; it's a question of a woman -
yourself.
Your refusal to accept 'that's the end of it' is the root where
your pain comes from, it is not where the heart aches. You are not
letting go - you are grasping tightly, refusing to release those
bondage. Your
hands is bleeding because of your grip, not because of
love.
You are condoning your own suffering to remain in your soul and
multiply maliciously.
***
I had someone I love the most.
But circumstances made it impossible.
I was a mortal then, thinking like what anyone else would think -
you had to be with the one you love most.
But circumstances made it impossible.
In the end, I realise that I caused by own suffering because I deny
my own personal growth.
I became what I am now because I have been taught to release, not
because I was taught to hold on.
We become stronger that way; we forge a closer understanding of
what Love means as we are discharged from our emotional
baggage.
Learn acceptance.
Cheers
