Will there ever be friendship after a breakup?

last SG · 2006-11-02T21:52:29+00:00

Most of my ex i didnt contact them and vice versa. Well, mayb its just like this. The breakup feeling is still there when see each other or mayb awkward.

Tissot1853 SG

with a girl for 5 years, broke up because of long distance relatonship, character difference or maybe because we just grew tired of each other aft so many years.

when breaking up we have a nice heart to heart talk and promise that we shd keep in contact as we know each other too well n can be confiding frens for each other if we have problems in life.

we still write emails to each other but when I came back to sgp n ask her out she give me excuses. I cant say tat I have move on very well but I m those kind who know that one should not dwell over smething impossible. I met up with all my frens during this short stay in sgp to say hi to everybody except her.

so m wondering will ther ever be friendship after a relationship? I feel it is sad that I cant be fren with smeone who understands me well.

thks for readingt his post.

Skibi SG

does she have a new bf? maybe she doesn’t want him to misunderstand?

rainee SG

I can't.

I have had two ex-es, both of them I have never even bothered to keep in touch with after the break up.

But that's me. For me, once I have moved on, there is no turning back. And maybe I am a coward as well...because by not even having the friendship, there is lesser chance I will be reminded of the hurtful past.

pierre^^ SG

i thought it was possible

until i found out she del me from msn when she got new bf

Crying or Very sad

sigh

Bontakun SG

Why not? Unless you or her do NOT see her or you as a friend.

missqi SG

Why not?
I am friends with two of my exes. Laughing

rainee SG

Actually depends on how the break up occurs...

like mine did not happen on good terms, both times...so i just deleted them off from my MSN and stopped contacting them... Confused

If the break up is mutual, then maybe still possible to be frens ba...

smudgey SG

it might still be awkward to meet one on one....

why not ask her and another few friends along... it might make her more comfy...

UnheardUnknown SG

There can be if the both of you are clear about your feelings towards each other.Prehapyou would want to tell her you only want to say hi to avoid misundrestandings.If you still have feelings for her its better not to meet her.You can even ask her new bf out to tag along so she knows that you purely want to say hi.

FireIce SG

yes.
it is possible
but of cos, both parties must be open to it

rane SG

To answer your question, it can be yes and no. It depends on the 2 parties. If they are willing to be normal friends, then it's possible. But if one party has very serious character flaw than to remain as ordinary friends may not be possible. My intention was to be ordinary friend with my ex. But his serious character flaw affects the friendship, so we are not even friends now. And also depends on what reason the couple break off to decide if friendship is possible.

Quinsy SG

CAn. After he dumped me, we still chat for hours online. XD

bazi SG

On paper it is possible, but when come to real life, urmmmmm..... I can't say it is impossible BUT it is real difficult bcos of the culture we hv from young. For european, dats is possible..... no offence to european pls... Wink

dokono SG

Long distance kills the relationship.

By right, absence should make the heart grow fonder. But long distance makes things very difficult. You don't know if she has been hassled by other guys while you are here in another country.

Plus, have you seen her at all? Rather, has she seen you at all?

When it's over, it's done. Friends maybe but there's no point as far as wanting a lover. You are just wasting your time and youth. There are so many people around to make friends.

doko

monoslayer SG

i dun. over is over. unless she wanna remain as my fuck buddy. Laughing

bazi SG

Good example of long distance r/s...... learn from it and make sure won't happen in u. Cherish is the word...... Mr. Green

pierre^^ SG

u got a gf jus becoz of sex?

monoslayer SG

of cos not.
but an ex-gf is only good as a fuck buddy. Embarassed

pierre^^ SG

strongly disagree

break up le doesnt mean u can degrade someone rite

monoslayer SG

aiyo.. dun quote me wrong. i jus cant remain frens wif my ex-gfs. Laughing