heartbroken and sad

frankwongjoosong SG

I got to know a woman thru internet. She is married but having problems with her HB. Both of them are teachers. She is 28 . I am 38. She said I look presentable and she is quite presentable too. sO I thought we are compatible since first impression passed. The first few days was the happiest moments holding hands hugging, sms every hourly. words like i love and miss you flew all over in the HP. One day after one week, she felt cold and she said despite our relationship her heart is not filled despite having found love. She says she is guilty and her conscience is affecting her. I asked her why you advertised herself. Naturally I tot is self matchmade. I told her when I kissed you and hold your hands you were sincere i could feel. She also mentioned she and her husband are livingin separated rooms and have not sleep with each other for 3 years. I told her that I Love her but she replied she is fond of me, likes me but not fall in love with me yet
Tell me am I a fool. Sad and Heartbrokened.

Space1999 SG

ITS been only one week , for goodness sake!! Twisted Evil and you are 38?????

dokono SG

Hi

you are 38. Are you new to the dating world? Or just got back to the dating scene?

She is still married and you don't know if you are on the rebound. You don't know if she still likes her husband.

Do not, ever, touch her. Allow her to touch you.

Then you said "I love you" over a few days. Might as well propose to her! Control your feelings. It's anti-manly.

Yeah she found her love but only for a short while. You came on too strong. After that, she fell out of love again. You have to be patient with her and all women, for them to fall in love with you.

She can't fall in love with you yet. What does that tell you? Low feelings. Not turned on enough yet. Back off. Slowly build the r/s. If she still remains cold, it's either she can't fall in love with you anymore(40% chance) or she never dig you to begin with(60% chance).

doko

Space1999 SG

interesting comments, but lets set a standard, how long on average does a couple dating can be considered a couple or already falling in love
lets have a poll

Question

M©+square SG

Confused

moongster SG

Yo, don’t ever get involved with a woman when she’s having trouble, especially one with marital problem. In the first place, why do you love her? Not confused with lust, are we?

darknessfall SG

you 38 and single ar? Rolling Eyes

Devil1976 SG

You are a fool.

pierre^^ SG

is there a oldest forumite award?

dragg SG

i am 41 and single too!!

Very Happy

btw, she is married. wake up, you are committing adultery!!!

Snowsaint SG

I seriously think she's just fooling ard wid with just because she had a long tiff wid her hubby... and she's only finding that lost love she sees in you that she cant get from her husband...

Maybe they patched already... so she decided not to be unfaithful to her husband and therefore decided to dump u instead of a guy whom she already know for quite sometime...

Time to get a life man.. Wake up! You obviously know that u two cant get any further... so i suggest u forget this lady and move on with life... Dont give up the whole forest just because of a single tree... =)

<Precious> SG

Wad do you expect for a 1-week old relationship? It's not the end of the world yet wad...... Nothing to stop u two developing the r/s, is there? Laughing

precipice SG

love is a dangerous game.

Sad

VampireEB SG

This tree is belonging to someone else already ..so forget about her and stop investing your feeling towards her.

frankwongjoosong SG

thanks for your help. Its hard to forget her. BTW i am still single. But she doesnt love her husband and she said she is very fond of me. What do you say?
Look I am not interested in sex. Of course which man don't need sex. But I gave my heart to her. Even if there there is sex, my love will multiply for her tremendously. I do not want to be hurt that's all.
She and her husband are separated and is now considering divorce soon. They are divorcing each other on the grounds of adultery because her husband have a girlfriend before their marriage 3 yrs ago and he was always sleeping with her till today. So this woman that I met have been suffering in silence for 3 yrs. So am I wrong to know her and give her back what's she 's missing?

ditzy SG

I say you're playing with fire.

blu_sky SG

of cos she has to say she doesnt love her husband anymore.
Which man/woman when fooling around doesnt say that?

Devil1976 SG

Hmm.

kaister SG

Why are you guys attacking him on his age? There's nothing wrong with 38. Confused

Rock^Star SG

Obviously, Mr Frank here is suffering and at a loss, hence destructive and unhelpful comments would surely be unappreciated. Rolling Eyes

Dear Mr Frank, you seem to me that you feel really lonely. And too much of it is not healthy to start a relationship. U also barely know this teacher? Take it slow pls.

It is loneliness which brings the 2 of u together and such a union normally does not last.

Get a grip on yourself and join some outdoor or indoor social activities, instead of going thru the net. One must have a healthy mindset before he/she can love another.

My $0.02 worth.