How much would i need??? Please advise...

last SG · 2006-10-16T14:45:13+00:00

can be cheap cheap one. no wedding gown or nice dress, just normal clothes; lunch reception jsut those catering buffet lunches. total less than 500 bah

viciouskitty74 SG

Go for the old timer goldsmiths shops. If they dont have, can also ask them to tailor make for you.

I agree the new designs wans are ugly. But then, no one actually wears it! Just buy the cheapest package lah....those fat fat ones but are hollow inside ones are good enough. Its only for photo taking and pretend pretend to be rich.

BTW, avoid those white gold, platinum or diamonds stuff. They are really not worth a cent.

the idea of keeping the yellow gold is that, when you need cash, you will eventually. These items can be pawn.

Nothing beats the feeling of relief when pawning a gold bracelet to get some cash that will buy milk to feed your baby.

beavan SG

tsk tsk somebody is getting married and u are saying such things.

touch wood Shocked

Xcert SG

Laughing Mr. Green ...hee,hee...I found my dragon and phoenix bangles already...finding it depends on luck one lar...I found a few in chinatown old timer shops...but the carving not nice one...even went to neighbourhood goldsmith shops to find...but they tell me now individual dragon and phoenix not popular anymore...now all combine into 1 bangle...

tailor-making is an idea...but then U dunno how good is their workmanship...and if U really tailor-make...U have to take it even if U find the design ugly...so I didnt like this idea but its up to threadstarter lar...

err....the pawn part....hope I wouldnt have to do it ever...but since we are on this...dragon and phoenix bangles with carvings are normally done on pure gold...916 gold is too hard to carve nicely. Laughing Mr. Green

~Numb~ SG

Thanks for all the valuable add ons...
it's been a good help...

Kinda listing out the stuffs that needs to be taken note of...

As i had posted before, my intention is to do away with the wedding banquent.
and have a lunch buffet instead.
Straight after the Solemninsation and the "Jin Cha" ceremony.
But after some initial calculation...both sides(me and g/f) have guests adding up to around 180 odd people...
So my concern is will it be a chaotic situation???
You guys think is it Do-able???

Anybody have any similiar experience?
Please share???

TIA

Xcert SG

180 people means only 18 tables(10 per table)...small small only lar...can do....U should see those people having 20...30...40 tables one...look nice...number big big...but then I find it no meaning lor...most of the time U also dunno who U invited just to make up the number...waste time waste effort...most likely waste money too.

no offense meant to anyone with many many tables... Laughing Mr. Green

and how are U going to conduct ur lunch buffet?

after ceremony...all go take food...find table sit down and eat...eat finish then go shake hand and go?I think U need to provide some entertainment for ur guests lor...if not it would be super boring...

~Numb~ SG

Quite agree with what you said...
What kind of entertianment is there?? Karaoke??? Wahahahaha
Hmmm...what i want is a meaning feeling lunch where i can interact with the guests instead of rushing to change...take photos, den Q at the exit for ppl to leave....

Anybody else has a comment???
Thanks for your pointing out the entertainment issue, Xcert

viciouskitty74 SG

very very do-able.

Had friends who did it with dunno hundred tables....meaning 1k plus pax.

Only so few will be involved in the jin cha through-out the day.

viciouskitty74 SG

Then you try to explain in not so straightforward terms for me lah. Since you so expert. Wink

viciouskitty74 SG

Hotel poolside isnt cheap.

Then there is decorations for the pool and so on. From Marquee for bad weather to decorations of the ballroom in case of rainy weather.(if the ballroom is next to the pool). To the security officers telling hotel guest not to use the pool because of your function.....those unhappy hotel guest will be cursing your wedidng instead.

Then issues about where the food is place, where the guest can sit and whether a stage is needed for the soleminsation to maybe the entertainment.

The logistics is harder and its like mostly having to pay in cash for that few minutes you really need.

You will need a wedding planner for this.

Poolside is over-rated, cos Singapore weather really isnt suitable for an afternoon outdoor do... Imagine, you, your wife to be and your family all sweating buckets and cursing under their breath at the July Sun or the sudden humidity of the rain showers.

viciouskitty74 SG

entertainment will be your best mans, ah yees going onstage and making you new couple perform obscene tasks, like some circus animals on a company dinner thingy.

choco B SG

Your guests are dear friends and family who will witness you getting married, be part of the occassion, share in the happiness, have a good meal together and have time for chitchat and catching up at leisure.

Why do you need entertainment? Confused It's not a show leh. JMO.

viciouskitty74 SG

depends lah....

some people engage a live band or a classical music band.

the_fallen SG

It's important to know those, but if you OT, only can plus a few hundred of dollars only.

You should calculate, how much you spend monthly, how much you save money, see which expenses can you currently cut down on to save more and maximise your savings.

Here's a method which i last time learnt : Collect this numbers
1) Your desinated amount needed for Solemnisation
2) Your monthly savings per month

Step)
divide the 2 and you will get how many more months you need to save for just the solemnisation and ROM

Note) but don't forget, you still have marriage expenses, house loan etc to count in.

Additional information, i have PM you, if you're interested to know more, just let me know Very Happy

I hope I can help with my passed yrs of experience in F&B, not a lot, but still able to help you.

Regards,
the_fallen

blu_sky SG

TS,

out of curiosity, may i know how old are you?

~Numb~ SG

After this month, i'm gonna be 26 already...
Why???

~Numb~ SG

Thanks again to viciouskitty74 for all the valuable inputs...
I got to agree with you that Singapore afternoon is a killer...
Wait all the elderly relative starts to faint...Wah jia lat...
LOL

Maybe the solemnisation can be done in later morning, den the tea cememory can be shift indoor to a function room or something...
This is what i have in mind....

Hmmm....still can't imagine....close to 200 odd folks going for food at the same time Razz

Well, things are slowly sorting out, thanks to all the input from the fellow forumers....

Anybody have anything to add/contribute...Pls dun feel shy...
Thanks

honeymouse SG

If you are going to have more than 100 people, gathering around the pool site might be an issue.

Perhaps you can consider only inviting family members and closed friends only to the solemnisation if you insist having the solemnisation at the pool site. After the solemnisation, you can move on to another venue for your "c0cktail" party (buffet lunch) where you can invite the rest of your friends to.

How about just hire a hall where you can accommodate a big turn-out? The set up will be simple... you just need a big long table for all the food and drinks etc and chairs along the hall for your guests to sit whenever/wherever they want.

Most of the people will probably stand and chat with friends most of the time anyway. If possible, have some space where you can turn it into a dance floor for people to dance.

To minimise chaos, it's best to have a program you can stick to (your guests don't have to see this program, just your MC/DJ on that day to make the appropriate announcement) at the c0cktail party including:

From to - Arrival of guests (Drinks to be served on arrival)
From to - Arrival of bride & Groom (MC to introduce the new husband and wife etc)
From to - Lunch time (not including desserts yet)
From to - Champagne pouring and toasting time (if you're planning to do it)
From to - Speech (Father of the bride/Best Man/ Groom/Bride)
From to - Cake cutting time
From to - Dancing or other entertainment
From to - Desserts/coffee/tea time
From to - Dancing or more entertainment etc
From to - Conclusion of the party

At the conclusion of the party, if you and your partner are planning to leave before your guests, you can always get the MC to get all your guests to form a big circle with you and your partner inside the circle. Once everyone is there, you and your partner can start thanking your guests by going around the circle (starting at the same point with one going clockwise direction while the other the anti-clockwise direction).

These are just some of my ideas.... Anyway, happy planning and congratulations on your impending nuptial. All the best! Wink

Xcert SG

welcome.

but I dont have a solution for U...its how U want ur guests to be kept occupied...think about it... Laughing Mr. Green Wink

viciouskitty74 SG

I still wouldnt recommend a pool.

Imagine the smell of chlorine warfting up to everyone's noses.

Are you going to be living at a Condo with a pool? That may be much easier to co-ordinate.

Cheapest of course is to do it at your family home. Decorate up the place, have the relatives over to witness the soloemisation as well as the jin cha ceremony.

Then have catered food at the house.

Another couple friend did it at their new HDB flat. And the food was personally prepared by the bride the night before.

Some of us guests helped out by heating up the food and was there early to help with the decorations of the place.

Roughly 80odd persons turns up, most of us the friends of the couples. Some of us stayed late to help clean up too.

viciouskitty74 SG

Sometimes, entertainment can be the form of everyone simply sitting down and chitchatting to catch up with each other.

Or some friends can help out by putting up a projector with a powerpoint show of both the bride and grooms childhood pictures.

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