how do u know if he's true?

silent_lamb SG

im 18 and he's 25.

sometimes the age gap realy seems to be abit of problem. whenever i get angry (which is V V V V seldom), he will say that i am a xiao mei mei. so what does a men at 25 wants from women? Love? care? concern? understanding? i really do not know.

and he's has a uper super messy past sexual life. has loads of flings before and is a divorced. how do i know if i am different from those flings? the only thing that assures me now is the fact that he spent almost all his time w me and takes good care of me. at least i know he dun have time for other girls. he tld me he's 25 already and he wants to settle down. i really feel very very insecure. but i do not dare to voice out cos he will start his "xiao mei mei" thingy again..

MEN.. what do u all want from women? how i wish i can open his heart now and see what hes thinkig inside. i really need advice from u peeps. esp a the Men here. cos i just stepped out of a relationship and do not wish to waste my time on another unsincere one. i have no time for flings. im true to him and i wish to know if he's the same towards me.

Ito_^ SG

i wan a girl who can keep me company.

some guys like girls once awhile, and hope they disappear for the rest of the time.

my point is, like girls, or anyone, there are alot of people out there with different demands. despite all the opinions you might read in the thread, noone will really knows except himself.

i'd wish i can say "talk to him", but im not good at it either.

silent_lamb SG

Originally posted by Ito_^:
[b]i wan a girl who can keep me company.

some guys like girls once awhile, and hope they disappear for the rest of the time.

[b]

that is soooo like him. he wants me to be his company. but there are sometimes when he doesn't need me, he can MIA (as in dun call or sms, but will still pick up my calls la). and i normally will jus MIA too.. in case he finds me irritating.. is this wise?

dokono SG

Yes this is good. Don't be too attached. Have some space. Love is about respect and giving space to each other. Don't be too clingy. If you two ever want to settle for a long-term commitment, there's no reason to keep seeing everyday. See bit by bit, it's good for the r/s.

It is true he does not need you and so does you. All because you are insecure. You need to get a grip on yourself first.

ha8n SG

my advice:

It breaks your heart to see the one u love happy with someone else

but

it's more painful to know that the one u love is

unhappy with u

missqi SG

He’s the kind of man your mother warned you about.

mistyblue SG

u are 18, he's 25.
He wanna settle

What do you want?

Don't kid yourself.

silent_lamb SG

i wanna settle too. Smile

Rock^Star SG

girls will always be girls, CONTRADICTORY.

silent_lamb - ur nick alone tells me that ur meek.
- ur post shows that u are soft-hearted and indecisive.

What i can say is: A (horny) leopard never changes its spots.

U like ur bf very much and came here with the mentality of changing him. Often, gd advice in a case like yours falls on deaf ears.

Ben_Ng69 SG

Rolling Eyes

mistyblue SG

right.

At my age, I sill wanna have fun.

but if you don't mind, and you must find a way to tell him your concerns and work it out together. Whatever decision you make about the R/s, you will bear the consequence.

silent_lamb SG

Im willing to listen. i won't continue if he's not true. i dun wanna waste my time on someone who doesn't love me.

but the problem now is, how do i know if he's true?

mistyblue SG

agree. I already wash hands and put up disclaimer.
Laughing Anyways. Its her life. I cannot be bothered

silent_lamb SG

hi there,

i am listening to everyone here.
u dun have to be so mean. if u can't be bothered, dun reply.

Rock^Star SG

Men by nature, are stray. Those who have managed to keep themselves in line, have not had it easy.

One can kick a smoking or drug habit but not a horny habit. He could have told his previous gf that he wanted to settle down too.

Think abt it. Once horny, always horny. Especially for men.

mistyblue SG

you made your choice already. Even if he is not true, you already made your choice. So why do you even bother to ask.

You know, that's why he called you childish. Because your question is quite annoying.

dokono SG

Don't just suspect him lar. You like him and you suspect him. If you do, then don't commit to him. So as I have said, don't cling on to him. Learn to be satisfied can liao.

Rock^Star SG

dun worry abt mistyblue, he means well.

we have seen so many girls who come to aunt agony and complain, like yourself. when we tell them what's right, they think otherwise. It's human nature, we hear what we want to hear.

Nvm mistyblue, we shd still help but within our limitations of course. Laughing

silent_lamb SG

what right do u have to say that?

i alr said i am prepared to let go once i know how he actually feels.

pls do not put words into my mouth.

whether i am chidish or mature is my own prob.

mistyblue SG

Internet by its nature is full of information. Full of people's 1001 opinions, Full of gabage, full of funny things and even full of gems.

A lot of people selectively look out for information to alley their decisions even if the information might be misleading, false or whatever so it be.

Internet is for people to make causal remarks and make any sort of remarks without any responsibility.

Internet is full of half a story and half truths or twisted truths. The whole stroy never comes out, nor are anyone of us fully aware of the situation and can advice to 100%. Therefore relying on such advice has its risk and the person who choose to take it bears the consequence.

So as I said, and I would agree, you can be annoying because there is no answer to your question. If you have doubts, no one here can solve it 100 % because we are not you and your information might be twisted to give a certain kind of response.