kuckuc SG Hi, Recently my gal always say very sian coz on the phone, we always chat about the same thing, or nothing to talk at all, so both parties become silent. It has been a while... Then she say do we have generation gap? If dont want to talk then hang up... When you have nothing to chat about or maybe chat on same topic whenever you see your partner, maybe he/she is not suitable for you. I admit I'm that quiet type of person & do not often initiate topics. Really worry...
mistyblue SG Your age difference is... Do you plan ahead to do some activity together? Do you go out for some activity together? After talking for a while... it is natural to run out of topics...
<Precious> SG Perhaps the communication channels between u two have not been developed enough........ Time to sit down and talk things out openly..........
kuckuc SG difference about 6.... get to know her for around half a year before going into r/s.. in a week, we meet up for 4 days like that, somemore got chat on phone almost everyday... i got suggest for going holiday, so need to save $$.
viciouskitty74 SG its not a generation gap. both of you are at a plateau after a spike. Chatting dont necessary means that you are saying anything important. talking does. And she means it literally about, dont want to talk, please hang up. You are making her stand and sit at the phone when she can do better to do something else and maybe telling you about it later. A person may not need to say anything to have the good friend understands what needed to be known.
dragg SG if you have nothing more to talk about it makes sense to hang off. if you have nothing to talk about at all, why call in the first place?
ptw SG Dun blame yourself for running out of topic during conversation. Brighten the r/s up by engaging into other sorts of activities. Cheers.
beavan SG dun make it mandatory to have a conversation with ur girl. maybe be spontaneous and call each other only when there’s something to talk about.
compadre SG yes i agree that talking on the phone every night is very draining why not try to cut down on the frequency and see how it goes... explain to your gal the situation and make known that you are speaking to her less not because you care less but more that you want to improve on the relationship instead
BrUtUs SG bad sign for u... but u reali hv to remember how u last time get her as ur gf... u know her interest then follow up with topics from there... where are both of u now? she sch n u work?
newbie06 SG if she really likes u she will acceot ur quietness then she will do the talking. There are actually so many things to talk to. its u dun knw where to start from.
dokono SG a few warning signs to look out for: -she say she is ''sian''. Think about it. If she has a lot of feelings for you, she will try to find some topics to talk. She will expand on what you say or even ask you back questions. something is wrong. -you say it has been a while -she ask u whether the two of you have a ''generation gap''? Does a girl with high feelings for you say this? Is she trying to tell you that she is losing chemistry for you? It's funny how some couple can have chemistry even though they have a lot of age differences. Think about it. Conclusion: don't talk too often on the phone.
rikki SG I've always had this problem. I may not be able to help you much, but at least i can try to advice you. This talking thing, Is something that just comes naturally. You dont have to plan it, Its stupid IMO. Just let yourself run free. But if you really want somethings to know what to talk about, My friends always tell me this COMMON YET USEFUL PHRASE TO KILL BOREDOM LOL "You eat already?" "Why haven't eat? Go eat la, you always never eat one" "Dont starve yourself okay. later sick how" "How are you?" "How's your day?" K, i just sounded like a freaking junky.
kuckuc SG Thanks all... Now it's better, as we don't call that often these days, but still we smses... beavan: perhaps you're right, to think back, I guessed i feel like it's mandatory to call her even i have nothing to talk to her... just call to say "how are you today? how's work? etc..." BrUtUs: Both of us are working. A holiday might work, we are planning to go back hometown this coming public holiday, will see how things work =p If you everyday on the phone with your partner, will you be exausted & run out of topic
Quinsy SG My bf runs out of topic most often and I do tell him to just go sleep or do his stuff cuz talking on the phone is BORING. I’d much rather we leave each other alone and have some personal time then talk about it later when we do meet face to face than to call and stare at the ceiling in silence until I hear him snore.
