I didn't exactly go thru all 7 pages of this thread, but I did
go thru a bit here and there....
Believe it not, there CAN be a normal relationship between man and
woman, even if they were ex. At least it worked for me. Personally,
I have a few ex who are very close friends with me now. When ever
they have a prob is their current r/s they will always come and
look for me for advices/company. I'll be frank here, I even had a
married fren who come over to stay at my place once. It's just a
matter of trust.
Be forewarned though.... Trust is a very vague subject. How much
trust to have? Too much and the other party will take advantage of
it most of the time. Too little will result in conflicts and
jealousy.
Even though ur gf still meet up with her ex even though she
complained to u that he's a loser, she might just be testing ur
trust and how much confidence u have in her. Have it occured to you
that she kept the outings from you because she's afraid that you
might get jealous?
That's where the trust factor comes into play. How much do u trust
her? Are u really sure that she did hanky panky with her ex in the
first place? Do u have concrete prove? Those SMSes means NOTHING.
If u think she's been unfaithful when you have no concrete
evidence, you have no trust in her at all. There's no point in
carrying on a r/s w/o any trust in it. What if she really remained
faithful and yet you accused her otherwise?
Bottom line is, how much trust is there in this r/s? Sit down and
trash things out with her. Abortion is the last resort.
p/s: sorry for being str8 forward.. but you come across to me as a
very ignorant and egoistic guy. I know I shouldn't judge, but ask
yourself this:
What isit that you are trying to
solve? Are you trying shrink responsibility because of your own
ego, or do u really love her and trying to make a r/s
work?
