Need urgent advices from gals!

0lala SG

with relational to this topic

mod plz dun close this

http://www.sgforums.com/?action=thread_display&thread_id=202095

with relation to the above,same penpal

My penpal dosent know i like her but she knows i liked gal A b4 in the past

but ytd i raked it up and told her that at times theres memories of gal A,those harmless nostalgic feelings and wheather i shld attend my old school gathering as gal A wuld b present.
I asked her if those nostalgic feelings was normal and wheatehr she wuld attend the gathering if she was in my shoes.
i've gotten over that gal A and she knows.

but suddenly when i talked about this topic of that previous gal,her reply became short and kinda stern...those "i duno" and "mayb" or "i think so" replies...

is she angry?
i dun wish of her to get the wrong idea
but again i haven told her i liked her nor do i know wheatehr she likes me.

so what is it?
is she angry or is she 'noob' in giving r/s advicees?

blu_sky SG

That was a long thread which i didnt read. Caught a glimpse of your post above. Only one point i’ll like to raise. Please do not constantly bring up other gals to the gal you like, unless you want to create misunderstandings or jealousy.

0lala SG

but she dosent know i like her and i juz wanna ask advices from her on how i can attend gatherings yet not fall back to the pre gal

blu_sky SG

She is the gal you like, not your aunt agony.

0lala SG

but like i said she dosent know i like her

u do get advices from ur male friend too right? and vice versa

<Precious> SG

Why must ask gals for advice ah?
Guys cannot answer meh?

Dat means she's not happy with u for being so puo puo ma ma lor! Laughing

blu_sky SG

Young boi,

do you really want to show the gal you like the weaker side of you, the undecisive side of you?

duotiga83 SG

+1 here

de_middle SG

let it stay that way, best for her not to know.

dun scare her Laughing

0lala SG

but i think she sense that i like her

but never confess means no wild guessing ma

shes iritated last night....i smell jealousy
highly possible but cant confirm

if she indeed is jealous or iritated,what shld i do....?

blu_sky SG

There is no off-the-rack answer for this. Different gals need different remedies. Most important thing to do now is stop talking other gals.

ditzy SG

Concentrate on your studies and quit bothering girls. Laughing

dakkon_blackblade SG

x2 Laughing

0lala SG

define bother

we're nice friends who have simple intrests

and i'm juz trying to warm things slowly before i meet her

blu_sky,what do u suggest i tell her tonite?
whats the best way to ask wheather i've annoyed her ?
and how can i clear the misunderstanding

i wan her to know that i've gotten over that pre gal and i was only asking her for advices so as to avoid falling back to that gal

ditzy SG

both·er (bthr)
v. both·ered, both·er·ing, both·ers
v. tr.

1. To disturb or anger, especially by minor irritations; annoy. See Synonyms at annoy.
2.
1. To make agitated or nervous; fluster.
2. To make confused or perplexed; puzzle.
3. To intrude on without invitation or warrant; disturb.
4. To give trouble to: a back condition that bothers her constantly.

v. intr.

1. To take the trouble; concern oneself.
2. To cause trouble.

n.

A cause or state of disturbance.

interj.

Used to express annoyance or mild irritation.

No girls, no problems, no need to post threads in Aunt Agony. Geddit? Laughing

0lala SG

dun spoilt the thread leh

i really need advice to solve the misunderstanding with her as a friend

choco B SG

If you have to consciously "avoid falling back to her" , then you're not over her, are you!??

If you want to woo a girl, you've got to start thinking with your brain rather than heart and/ or dick. A girl who likes you will not want to hear about other girls in your life, or that you're still tied up over some other girl.

Suggest you not mention your ex anymore and just let it blow over. Act like it was a one-time query that didn't mean anything. If your penpal asks about this girl or about this school event, be totally nonchalant and unenthusiastic about it.

0lala SG

Yes i'm over with that pre gal
but i'm asking for advices around on how i can attend gathering where she is present but yet not being awkard

lastly,i'm over with her and that is undeniable,i juz dun wan sad momeries flooding back

blu_sky SG

i cant tell you what or how to do cos i dunno her and i wouldnt be there. Different strokes for different folks.

For me, i rather the guy stop talking altogether. no point explaining, cos "yue miao yue hei", you get what i mean? if im interested in knowing, i'll ask him myself.

Some times people prefer to clarify, but i find tat too po po ma ma. Again, different strokes for different folks. Play by ear. Good luck!

browniebaobao SG

if she doesnt know u like her, and she dun like u, why would she be angry?

sometimes guys juz like to think too much.. and then say women are hard to understand.

i think they are 'zi xun fan nao'.

btw, are the two girls sg girls?