should i call her?

newbie06 SG

Hi. need some help from u people. i have this internet fren(female). I hav known her for abt 10 months. our fenship is the on and off type. I only started to call her in june then she was a nice person we chatted for hours on the phone. She keep asking me to call her and i am someone who actually hates talking on the phone. she keeps telling me her story problems etc and i feels that she is not interested when i tell her mine. So slowly i also feel quite sianz so whenever she ask me to call then i will give excuses this and that lah. sometime she will get angry if i call her late then start to call me idiot and stuff. Initially i will just endure with it then gradually i just disconnect the phone. Ard july, we were talking then out of a sudden i said something wrong then she just flare up then blah blah blah. once again i jus put down the phone. she called me but i never pick up. I sent her a msg told her pointless to become frens etc. then we didnt contact for few weeks but sometime i do sae hi to her on msn.

On monday she was on MSN then i jus said hi to her then chat for a while then she ask me some funny qns then told me to call her and chat. She keeps telling me that she have something important to tell me. she also called me but i didnt pick up. total of 9 missed call. should i call her? I have a funny feeling whenever i talk to her.

de_middle SG

so you have not met each other yet in person? and you are already starting to feel irritated.........since you already told her about not being frens, why did you still say hi on msn?

You're unsure whether you still want to carry on this rite? Find out what is holding you back then & you should find the answer soon.

SGpork SG

u dont like to talk to her..
but she say got something important to tell u n give u 9 miss call..liao
call her lei ..dont be so cold..

Rolling Eyes

newcomer SG

honestly, this is scary. you should be str8 forward to her if you’re not interested.

blu_sky SG

ya lah... if u get irritated by her even online, why say 'hi' to her when u already said dun want to be friends.

anyway, i think she does take u for granted.

newbie06 SG

i nv met up with her b4. It common for frens to say hi to each other and anyway i dun relly meant what i said( i am nt that petty). its nt that i am cold dun wan to call her. Just that its already thurs she msg on monday.. a bit late and i dun knw what excuses to give. she also ask me y i am avoiding her??

missqi SG

call lah.
wont die ma.
u r curious anyway.
Mr. Green

choco B SG

I think you have sent out clear enough messages that you're not interested in her (avoiding calls, disconnect phone, etc). Keep on avoiding her and she'll ge the message eventually.

Aside, her calling like 9 times makes her out to be abit despo leh ! Confused

newbie06 SG

i jus dun wan her to treat me for granted thats y i also dun wanna call her. i dun think she is despo cuz tt the first time she miscall me so many times.. usually she will drop me an sms ask me to call her lor..

alexkusu SG

what are you expecting from her?

newbie06 SG

i am not expecting anything from her…

alexkusu SG

not wanting her to take you for granted, wanting her to listen to your probs when you have any.....

still not expecting anything from her ah? icic...

choco B SG

LOL I don’t understand what’s going on

Mid9Sun SG

Call her....if things work out good...if things dun also good..at least its a closure.

Or else you will forever wondering

newbie06 SG

of course.. for me i will respect the person and listen to the person whatever he/she talking.. basic courtesy, but i expect the same from the person too regardless of close friends or casual friends.

d3sT1nY SG

Why don't you copy and paste everything you've typed above into thhe conversation window and see how she feels about it.. I mean we don't know her and so how are we supposed to judge.. Isn't it easier like just tell her straight for her views.. If it's tough for you to talk to her this way.. There's always MSN.. Rolling Eyes

browniebaobao SG

she's obviously interested in u and trying to gain ur attention.

leave her alone, or she will pester u more. Laughing

newbie06 SG

yah u r rite but i dun think she interested in me jus tt i am too nice always listen to her stuff nv reject her. she just looking for someone to chat with..

browniebaobao SG

sometimes when u are too nice to a person, always lending that person a ear, she might get the wrong idea..

unless both of u know very well that u can only be frens, nothing more.

0lala SG

report to the law enforcer

They will b of a great help by installing calls detector and waiting for her to call and trace her location