see boyfriend's profile in match.com

last SG · 2006-08-23T15:48:22+00:00

yup totally agreed... its always good to talk it out

browniebaobao SG

Confused

Match.com caters to singles mah..

singles go there not necessary to find a partner leh..

some really joined to find frens.

u still haven say when did he join..

if he joined before he stead with u, then maybe he was looking for someone special..

but after he got u, he's there just for making frens, possible?

dun be so narrow minded.

did u ask him when did he join?

did u tell him how u feel?

did he assure u that he's purely making frens over there?

Devil1976 SG

Some people genuinely do....

rainee SG

Not necessarily. Think she is just being cautious?

To the threadstarter, try going there to create a new profile, then pretend u dunno him lor, and go talk to him. See what he will ask you to do Twisted Evil

Turbo13 SG

i dont understand why pple can be liddat…if love the person then be responsible la, i always tell my gf if one day she dont love me anymore and found someone she think that she will be more happy, pls let me know and dont two time. At least she didnt betray my feeling if she tell me then start a relationships with another guyz, but if two time. nono

browniebaobao SG

the trust is not there leh..

biangz SG

correct that, dump ur friend for causing a rife in ur relationship lol
kidding, u muz see when he make ba before or after he meet u?

rainee SG

yea, this brings up an issue that I have mentioned in one of my threads here

What is the most challenging thing in a r/s?

Do you trust wholeheartedly when you are in a r/s? Or would you pay attention to some "red flags" when they come up and check them out? For me I will pay attention to those...it is more like an instinctual feeling? Once I have a gut feeling that something is wrong, I will definitely wan to go and check it out, to see if it is just my imagination or if it is really a mistake by my partner's part. And if he does nothing wrong, he does not need to be afraid anyway Mr. Green

elindra SG

Seriously if you think you can't trust him on that, the only way is to create a profile and approach him or get a friend to do it if you are not comfortable with it.

I mean if you think that is suspicious and out of the ordinary, just check it out like what rainee said. Better to know for sure and find out on your own than have a brick thrown your way out of the blue.

galfriend SG

Totally agree. You do not want to trust blindly and dumbly, do you?

browniebaobao SG

sometimes women tend to be a bit too sensitive.

i duno ba.. im ok with my guy making new frens of the opposite gender.. as long as he's faithful to me.. dun cross the line lor.

rainee SG

haha of cos i m fine with my dear making frens with other girls as well...nothing wrong with that...but if he make frens with them with the intention of two-timing me, then that's a red flag that I would have to pay attention to lor.

The only way to know if he has that intention or not is to check it out myself Laughing

browniebaobao SG

i dun think ur mew mew will do that la. Laughing

rainee SG

he better not Twisted Evil

but i trust him Mr. Green

pwnz0r SG

So from her post, you immediately conclude the boy friend is fooling around? If CID like that, I think 80% of population in jail already. Rolling Eyes

rainee SG

omigosh, u r talking bad abt urself? Laughing

Honeybunz SG

Went thru that before.

ex Bf signed up for adult friend finder while I was still with him. Got caught by me (forgot how I found out). Also found his sex emails to some girls but didn't confront him.

Later, we broke up for many various reasons. After that, I heard about him badmouthing me, and somemore he did so to gain sympathy from girls.

So angry at him hurting my reputation. I hacked into his Adultfriendfinder account (dun ask me how I did it. I just did it.) Upload a picture of p-nis into his account and change his profile to gay.

alexkusu SG

did u make sure to change the pwd n email accounts in case he wants to reset the pwd? yes? good! Mr. Green

browniebaobao SG

Laughing

that's mean.

Mid9Sun SG

Since you already alerted him that you aware of his profile. Then I suggest you dont bother to pretend and test him becos he's already on guard.

I do not know how abt your r/s is and its not appropriate for me to give any advise. However there are a few questions you might want to ponder:

1. How active is he on the site
2. Are able to trust him enough that he is not hankypankying behind you?
3. Can you live with this knowledge that he ever sign up for a dating webbie
While being with you?

All best~

galfriend SG

This is so infuriating.

He had since agreed to take down his profile from match, and had done it. But everytime we had a fight, he will put it up again. He said he did it to spite me. OMG, at our age, why are we still doin things to spite each other?

I'm getting tired of arguing this with him. I'm not goin to fight with him this time over this. Let him be. But i find this really frustrating.

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