Devil1976 SG It's not about 'calculative'.. It's about a guy who's gonna to 'guided' into a free-lodger one day.... A parasite to his family... I mean if he has really got GREAT GOALs and AMIBITIONs fail already still not that bad... But if he's just out to DRAIN... ISN'T HIM BEING THE EXTREME ONE...? Ok. As if even if you suggest for her to divorce him, she would do that? Some people just don't wake up from dreams until they turn nightmares ya know...??
BrUtUs SG tat means tis guy duno how to finance.... she should tell her husband abt it... wats the point of hving a racer car when u cant even feed urself properly...? stupid boy.... sound like he still very immature....
Cool-gal SG Ya la, now the pro is i dun whether to support her to divorce or not, coz she is thinking of one. To me, the main concern is her son.. U noe, woman always loses out after married, like "market value" dropped...
BrUtUs SG yup she is the one losing out.... as always talk first, if cannot, take action.... she need to sort it out wif her husband big time....
Devil1976 SG Personally I think you should support her decision. Unless you have got an idea very much better and workable than what she has suggested..? Moreover she's really the one in the shoes... Sometimes it's just difficult for a 3rd party to comprehense what she's really going through... Do you think that it would be better for the son to live under a roof where problems constantly submerge..? What 'market value'? From the way I see now, her husband's taking her at almost 'zero value'....? Would that be a better scenerio?
CrabbyShaSha SG For a loser who nvr seemed to hv learnt his lesson, I'd say he doesnt deserve such a capable wife. He seems like a classic guy who would say all his promises but w/o fulfilling them. If this is so *as I've tot*, not even counselling wld help becos most prolly he wont make it thru the complete sessions anyway. I am for your friend to leave this guy.
pinkygal76 SG I know of man who are like her husband......they seldom change.....bad habits die hard..... going for counsuelling is not an option for him probably, change his flaunting spendthrift habits lagi hard....... Whatever yr frenz decision is, support her.... this is probably wat she needs the most now...... Good luck to her and her kids.... i personally think she will be better alone bringing up the child on her own...... who knows ....along the way she may meet someone real nice ....
blu_sky SG He so SBC, u think he will be bothered? Cant be bothered to pay bank, will be bothered to pay wife?
ShrodingersCat SG I think depends on the guy. If the guy is really hopeless.. then dont drag things in the mud, just move on to new life. Even if your friend find difficulty to bring up child on her own, at least dont have problems compounded by useless husband. Your friend still young, dont need to be drag down by a loser ba. Make one wrong decision when young to marry him enough liao, dont need to make a second wrong decision to stay with him. Its not about the money - its about responsibility.
Devil1976 SG Chinese have a saying... "Got borrow got return, borrow again no problem... Got borrow no return, borrow again no talk..." Plus, such things could add up if she wanna file for divorce in the future.... Always better than to give away $ for free yup?
Jet81 SG Just got curious… how did her husband manage to get himself so hugely in debts? Perhaps another way of saving this marriage is to ask his husband to go for couselling and also cancel the credit facilities so that he will not be able to spend so much.
alexkusu SG nowadays when divorce must also think bout the grandkids research has found grandkidsof such tend to be dropouts, drug users, etc
FORGET-ME-NOT SG Ahya....marry easy, divorce difficult. To get marry, all you need is just a word 'I DO' in the ROM but to divorce, you need a lot of document to be done. Worst of all you have to care about your kids and answer those stupid questions from stupid people 'why you divorce?' funny, why marry nobody ask 'why you marry?'.
FORGET-ME-NOT SG I have a close friend who married young but now divorce. She face the problem of people keep asking her that questions. She told me that she is trying to lead a new life and forget her ex husband yet people just keep bring her back to the past. In the end, she left Singapore for good. I lost one good friend So now I never ask people this question unless they are the very close to me.
macjoe SG Divorce. The son can easily pick up his bochap habits. Can she settle problems from two bochap persons? At least divorce, it'll force the man to think hard.
Devil1976 SG Like "Don't know...", "Not sure...", "Because I like him / her... I think...?", "to buy a house", "to buy...." etc.
