have a gf of 6 years, both of us are in our mid twenties now, i
am abt to leave army and she jus got a new job.
my personality is i m always cautious in wadever i do and i dun
trust pple easily because of my past experiences
my gf has less of this experiences, during her poly times or even
outside life, there are times where pple try to cheat her in sch
projects or her money or even insurance scams, i m the one who pull
her out of it in the last min, i m not paranoid but all these
things prove to be true until later
she is very well protected by her parents cos she is the youngest
child,
i can say shes is not streetwise
simple things like walkin in the carpark, a car has its reverse
lights on, she will still walk straight into it, many at time i
have to pull her out of it.
she has a history of depression, its clinically proven, she cant
take stress, when shes stress, she cant think, she will breakdown.
she breaksdown during sch projects, she breakdown when we are
locked out in a stairccase. during her sec sch days, she has tried
to commit sucide, i mean she did but was saved in time
i met her in poly, 6 yrs until now, we have our ups and downs, n
all these while i been giving in to her temper because i knew her
history, shes bery emotional n gets angry bery easily, but we were
happy on the whole, i can say shes quite dpendant on me, as in most
of the time she will seek my advices in everything she do
her emotions are more or less stablised during the times wif me,
except for small squabbles or she will occasionally breakdown
because of work, but given the comparison during her younger days
its alot more stable
the real problem now is her new job,
her previous job, all abt 3- 4 of them are all below 2k n squeeze
her dry
no matter how low or difficult her job is, she will always try her
best to do it well, n given her volatile nature she has become a
bery unhappy person, shes always calling me n scolding me n yelling
at me, she admitted to me this is her avenue to take out her
stress, but after which, things jus continue as normal
u can say her conceientious working attitude is crashing wif her
emotions
i have no problems taking all these, because i knew her history,
sometimes, i make abit of noise when i feel like i m being taken
for granted but things were going fine, most of the time we were
bery happy together
she was approach recently by a US MNC, they offered her a salary of
2-3times her pay now, beginning when she told me , i was quite wary
because to me a dip holder who work for only 2-3 yrs to hit this
kind of pay is not bery posibble, but she told me this firm is
actually her supplier in her previous firm n the boss like the way
she do things, n the pay is so high because its paying in US
dollars and according to US pay rate. i told her if she feels safe
she shld give it a try since shes not happy in her current
job
she will need to go for training in the US HQ wif the director for
a week.
she say the guy is ok, cos she knew him abt a yr during their
business dealings in her previous jobs, but she only knew him as
supplier thru fone n email corrospondences not as a person.
u can say given her lack of streetwise i was bery worried because
to me, its like entrusting my gf wif a total stranger in a foreign
land. the guy is a married man 10 yrs her senior.
the first 4 days of her training, things were quite ok, i tried to
call her as little as possible, i called her every alternate days,
each time prolly jus 3 mins. after her office hrs so as not to
disturb her.
the problem came on the 4th day, i called her a few times but shes
not answering, so naturally i was jus slightly worried cos its not
her time to start work yet n its her waking hrs, abt half an hr
later she answered the fone, she sounded bery stressup n ask why i
keep calling, i jus said i wan to see how is she cos i have tok to
her for 2 days, i was sounding abit irritated as well cos i didnt
had a gd day, she started yelling n i started yelling, i couldnt
take it n cut her off, later i msg her i m sorry, i jus lose it,
but her fone was off. i told her if she dun call me back i m going
to call her boss or her hotel, i didnt mean it, i jus wan to talk
to her
up till the 7day, the day shes suppose to return, i checked her
flight schedule n found her 1st flight was delayed n she missed her
transit flight. i tried calling her but her fone was off all the
way. 6hrs later, there was still no news, i called the airline ,
they refuse to tell me anything, i call her hotel , they say they
have checked out.
i kept waiting n waiting, until i have no choice but to call her
boss, he did not answer the fone, i send him an sms saying i m
aware they missed their flight n how r things, n how is she. he
replied a few hrs later " i dont know"
his reply is chilling because a total stranger is wif my gf in a
foreign land n now he tells me i duno. i do not know how is she, i
do not know where is she and i do not know if shes harm, tots of
bad things flow to my mind, her cousin was actually murdered jus
some mths ago by his roomate.
i msg him back, saying if he sees her jus ask her to call back home
as her parents are worried as well
hrs after hrs, calls after calls, i was going out of my mind, cos
she is so dear to me, until i receive a call from her mom sayin
shes ok, i was relieve but i still i hoped to talk to her, i msg
her boss again, saying i hope to talk to her , can i have her
current hotel room number n name, he gave me a number, i called,
but she blocked off all calls.
her airline has only a flight returning daily, i went to the
airport n waited for them, its might be a empty wait because i have
already exhausted all means of communicating her n i dun wan to
disturb her boss any longer, finally i caught them, she was bery
emotional to see me, she ask me to leave her n she tells me she
wants to end her relationship, her boss told me to leave her alone
also, saying i m givin her bad time when she is in US, he say he
will send her home himself n ask me to give her soemtime to cool
down
i was bery puzzled, because to me, its jus merely a
misunderstanding, things happen b4 but her reaction was neber this
big, she screamed at me at the airport, as if i cheated on her
behind her back or i did something really wrong. 6 yrs all the way,
i have neber cheated on her, i have neber touched another girl,
shes all i ever had. i asked for 5 mins wif her, she say she wanted
to end it, i say wad really happen n she say she feel suffocated
and she wants to do wel in this job n i m in her way. i m addin all
her stress on her n she cant concentrate
i was desperate for her to listen to me, i asked her if anyone has
been bad mouthing me, cos of her emotional weakness, many pple have
made used of her including her friends who psycho her to cheat my
money when we first met, u can say shes the type who trust n belive
pple easily
she kept wanting to leave home wif her boss but i was desperate to
talk to her, i asked if her boss has been bad mouhing her to leave
me, i told her hes a total stranger n she shld think properly b4
believing anything, we dun even know his background but somehow all
these words became he got a lousy bavkground, he has a criminal
record, i duno how come it tansform to all these thigns, but at
that time i was really on the verge of breaking down, i was doing
eveything i could to get her back, i m not a person who speaks bad
abt another person but somehow i duno how the msg was relayed,
everything was going entirely wrong
she left wif her boss, i drove to her place, her dad went down to
helped her wif her luggage, i went up n asked her dad whether i can
talk to her, he let me into the hse
but 1st thing he question me was why did i badmouth pple, i duno
how to ans him, , i somehow feel even more hurt that my gf told him
everything and i duno how they interpret until this way
, we were a bery closed couple, we knew each other problems n we
have neber let it out beyond any 3rd party, i m in no grounds to
compete wif her boss, hes a succeessful regional director who earn
easily 5 to 6 digits a mth, i m jus a measly nsf who earns 440 a
mth
i neber had the chance to talk to her b4 her dad chase me out of
the hse, all she told me was she dun wan to see me again
is there really no hope in this relationship anymore ? can a 6 yrs
relationship jus be gone in 7 days ?
