hmmm...am I being selfish?

last SG · 2006-07-26T23:20:24+00:00

just ignore her......don't get too clingy.....you are the one in control over the connection....not her......don't show that she is everything for you.... s...

Texcoco II SG

Okay....there is tis gal i like...sometimes we will sms and call each other...however when she fails to reply or answer...i expected her to sms back late to say so, when she fails to do so, i get pissed off...i have this mentality that fail to answer/sms = dun care = not interested, however this is not the first time i get pissed off, when i do i will do things that also hurt her at the same time (we are not attached, but i in process of "jioing" her) I also think that, if she's interested, she should also make an initiative to call or sms me, which she very rarely do...but she reply positively everytime i contacted her...am i being selfish and sensitive (btw plz dun tell me tat she's never interested with me in the first place....read my other post on AA if u wana know why Rolling Eyes )

At the same time i wanted to do something so i can get her out of my head for a while, but i found it tough, especially when i see her in sch, how to forget for a while?

DrTech SG

Too sensitive, mate…

Rejected SG

Rolling Eyes

Darkness_hacker99 SG

So selfish and self-centered.

ahkico SG

How come u sound like a gaL?? Laughing

Sorry.. It's more of a gal bein more emotional.. In my opinion anywae..

Still studyin arh? Mayb u aren't ready to step into a relationship yet bah.. Wink

Gettin into a r/s requires maturity, sensitivity, etc.. Basically.. U gonna handle the stress of bein in a r/s, juggles with ur studies, mood swings when the r/s fluatulates up & down..

It is true.. If u sms someone & the person doesn reply immediately.. U feel crossed..

But it could be tat.. She is buzy @ the moment? Or She doesn't have her phone with her 24hrs..

She replies positively.. Tat's a gd sign.. Use it as a reminder tat she is interested in you.. Even if she replies late.. Or think it as.. Gals play hard to get.. To raise up the fun in intial courtship..

Dun be over processive.. U could end up losin her & hurtin both of urself..

Bontakun SG

You think she da only thing in your world? What about yr frens and other ppl who sms you or call you? You dun attend to her 24/7 rite? Rolling Eyes

Beckhamagic SG

Since both of you are not attached or related to each other... then you should not expect anything from her... Wink

No expectation = no disappointment... Wink

Concerntrate on your studies and you will forget her in no time...

fudgester SG

She has parents, a family, best friends, classmates, CCA pals, etc, etc. It is not just you who she keeps in contact with; there are many other people out there whom she has to be in touch with as well. Perhaps she may mean everything to you, but you are not necessarily at the center of her universe.

I won't pull any punches - you are being both too sensitive and selfish. If you're going to act this way when you're trying to woo her, I can imagine you becoming even more possessive and sensitive if you get attached to her.

She has a life outside of a friendship with you, and it'll do you a whole lot of good to remember that.

browniebaobao SG

very possessive.

she's not even ur gf, so is she obliged to reply all ur smses?

if she's not interested in u, do u think she will initiate to sms u or ask u out etc?

Sakuraflower SG

Why are u so possessive?

it will destroy the relationship....

try befriending her... and can go for a group outing...

soulness SG

BIG NO NO!
don ever do this..

im in the exactly same situation as u
and i didnt change abit..

and just recently she told me she got a bf liao!
if u don change ur ways, u end up like me..
good luck mate

Texcoco II SG

got one time i ask to jio her out alone (before that she go out with me only once....but only a short while) she say can bring friends along i immediately sianz... Rolling Eyes

Texcoco II SG

hmmm....any suggestions for me? cos i haven speak to her for quite long le

soulness SG

i myself still suffering from that
but i think u shld not be too sensitive la
take it as casual fren first lar
dun push her coz u only making her uncomfortable with u

just relax..u still have ur own life..
the world don revolve around her only ..

Texcoco II SG

anyway i got this weird thinking, i know it's sick, but i enjoy hurting girls, the more hurt or angry because of me I more fell happy and enjoyable about it,, if they are happy i tend to feel angry and upset, i will then think of plans to hurt my admirars...that's no normal.... Confused

soulness SG

huh? wat are u thinking mate?
its ok to be jealous or possesive..
but its NOT OK to be perverted hor..
control urself pls

dokono SG

have u asked her out? usually u dun expect most gals to do the work that all guys are expected to do which is to chase the gal.

I can tell from ur post that she is not very into you but I may be wrong. Try asking her out.

one more thing: most gals reply positively. That does not mean they are into you. U shd not expect anything in return unless she did not reply to you at all...then you have the right to be angry. But then again, they cud really have forgotten to reply to you. But that is a warning sign to you that she is not really into you after all. Take in mind you dun own her. You can't really force her to like you. Either she likes you or she doesn't.

Ask her out and you will know the answer.

zer0kool SG

you are just seriously in love with her

Urroh SG

you shld give her some time to accept you.. some girls like playing hard to get when actually they like you so much.. so play along so in the end you will be successful in yr jioing.. Mr. Green

ShrodingersCat SG

You insecurity tells you that when a girl is hurt by you, it means she gives a damn about you enought o be hurt.

However, bear in a mind that a girl who had been hurt a few times, learn that there is no point investing emotions in a relationship like that, and end up being indifferent.

You can try 'harder' of course to provoke a reaction out of her but it is sad to let your insecurity control you this way.