Originally posted by Yunhaier:
If you put some thoughts into my views, you will
probably see what I see:
If he is able to woo your friend over (unless factors lies with
your friends), obviously, he has that potential to woo just any
other ladies. Clearly, there isn't a problem with his interaction
with woman. Therefore, it isn't personality-related issue that
causes isolation.
[b]If he is
truthful:
My take is that albeit he mentioned that he didn't
have any relationship before, but I suppose he could have concealed
the point about flings. He may have certain sub-rosa relationship/s
that may not constitute an actual relationship. Some people play
around with words; I have this buddy who decided that anything less
than two weeks are not considered as relationship and his exes is
said to be 20+... excluding those less than 2 weeks. You get the
picture.
Then again, there could also be a possibility that he brandished an
unconscious fear of relationship and commitment. This is likely to
be psychological; it would largely be due to his early childhood
development (since he mentioned that he has no prior relationship
experience) and the gnawing influence from the effect of his
parent's marriage, which could have caused him to have unhealthy
aversion to commitment and marriage.
But because I am not her, I cannot decipher his personality based
on words, to conclude that this is a significant possibility - it
is just a possible thing. 
If he is
lying:
My question is why not? Why can't he? He could
have benefited much from lying, don't you agree?
(I) Why could anyone blatantly declare 'I like you, but sorry I
don't love you,' even before the chase begin?
yunhaier: The cruel truth is that he wants enjoy the
'fruits' of a relationship without having to 'pay' commitments
towards it. In order to achieve that, he creates a 'position' to
indemnify himself from 'charges' or label of a [email protected] by putting
his stand for the outcome of this 'relationship' first at hand.
Obviously if she accepted the proposal, there wouldn't even be any
responsible to talk about because he eliminated it from this game
of love.
(II) I believe he is an honest man - but in Love, we are talking
about another dimension of our characters. I have seen people...
good people... who turned out to be maniac in love.
And if he was lying, you may think what good does he gain to reveal
himself as 'no-gf' before?
yunhaier: To appear untainted and elevate himself to a
'chaste' image. So that his action will not seem like a
'professional' player and her resistance to him is greatly reduced.
This will probably induce her mind to think likewise - as if he is
incapable of such evil acts.
(III) He have known her for three years and why only the pursue
recently? Previously he has no feelings? Only liking all these
while? Sure? Considering that they knew each other for three years
and he claims that he hasn't got a gf before? And that liking never
developed and only discovered two months ago?
yunhaier: karmic relationship from planetary transition strikes in
your friend's birth chart, causing Uranus to activate sudden moves.
He may somehow think that your friend could be an easy
victim, especially worse if he knew about her past. (You mentioned
that they got emotionally close and obviously if people with ill
intention understood certain logics behind her blueprint in love,
they could actually tap on them to utilize it to their own
advantage).
Therefore, considering both 'what if' - my guess is that he may not
be lying completely, but he may not be entirely truthful or even
honest with what he has presented himself to be.
A possible mask... a facade.
P.S: Always be careful of people who present strange proposal of
love that contributes suffering or unfulfilment. You may not be
able to judge the book by its cover, but you can roughly tell how
much it will cost.
Cheers [/b]
Thanks alot Yunhaier =) I get what u mean. I will advise her
accordingly.. Really appreciate your effort to explain and think of
the various possibilities... 
