Well.... Pregnant women are really insecured and sensitive to
the husband's changes. So we shouldn't say any negative things to
make matters worse.
Forget Me Not might be helpful in a way, but suggestion is not
suitable in this scenario for a pregnant mother's state of
mind.
She is already stressed over the pregnancy and the obvious good
feelings of her hubby towards the ex colleague. A good feeling
might not be feelings between man and woman. Often we have good
feelings to people around us cause of various reasons, their looks
or characters resembles someone we hold dear too, their sense of
responsibilities, or even just because they treat the one we love
sincerely with no pretence. It's too shallow to judge based on what
factor that your husband has on her. But 1 thing is for sure, that
he loves you and your baby, otherwise he won't be talking about the
name of the child that you and him have created.
He might be just excited about being a father but have no one to
express his excitement. He might not be comfortable sharing his
excitement to his male friends cause of Men's act tough ego, and it
happens that they have been exchanging emails that they brought up
this issue.
Don't be eager to sentence him guilty because you are already
getting personal in your judgement.Because of your constant
displeasure of him contacting your ex-colleague, you see it as it
was her influence to make him change his mind about the name. Her
comments might just have been a catalyst of the doubts that he
already have.
I would advice you not to think about such issues as it is really
not healthy for your mental state that i'm afraid you might have
pre-natal depressions or lead to post-natal depressions. Both are
equally daming to both your physical and mental health, not to
mention a strain in the relationship between your husband and
yourself. Please do seek professional help in counselling rather
than the advice of normal by-standers whom most of us have not have
the experience and knowledge of psychology.
