Advise please..am I paranoid?

last SG · 2006-07-24T00:48:28+00:00

Have you tried smsing him instead of him smsing you all the time? It’s quite sickening when all the girl does in the relationship is to wait for the guy to i...

cherry... SG

Hi everyone..
I am new here and would appreciate some advise and opinion..

Am going out with this guy for the last one and a half months. He treats me very well, we connect very well and enjoy each others company. Last 2 weeks, he brought me to meet his close friends and people he hang out with. Finally after so long from my last relationship I think that I may have met someone that I can click with, and may be possible to have a relationship with.

Last weekend, we made arrangements to meet up this weekend. During the whole of this week, we did not manage to meet up, I suppose we were both busy with work. But for this weekend's meeting last minute, he cancelled..This whole week/weekend, he feels very much more withdrawn. He usually texts me everyday, if we do not meet to ask me how I am doing and let me know where he is, but this weekend, silence, except for the sms to cancel..

It feels funny because for the last couple of weeks, we were seeing each other every weekend, and some weekdays as well. Hence this sudden absence is making me feel very uncomfortable.

Maybe its the female oversensitivity..do you think that he has suddenly lost interest in me? or has changed "target"? But he does not seem like that sort that will change target, he seems very sincere and decent..for the last one and a half months that we have been seeing each other, he has been an absolute gentlement..

Or is it that I am being oversensitive and have too many thoughts going through my head?

I do not want to appear like a needy person, hence do not want to question what he is doing..afterall, we are not officially an item. We are still getting to know each other.. And anyway, I am not a needy person, its just that it has become such a routine of seeing him, that suddenly not seeing him makes me feel very uncomfortable..or perhaps past dating experiences is making me paranoid? Does all this thoughts/insecurities mean that I like him more than I think?

What do u think..and what do u think i should do..

Thanks for reading the long post..and i appreciate any advise u can give

mhcampboy SG

So my question is..... you like him? But do the guy knows you like him?

Everyone has a life you know. Take me for an example. I got to know a friend. We close at the first few weeks of our friendship. But after that, he was like keeping away from me. Or so that is what I thought.

But then again i realise it is just me being paranoid.

In your case maybe because its a beginning of a new friendship. That is why he bonded with you in the beginning. But maybe he is busy. That is why he is acting this way. I think you are being paranoid.. Mr. Green

countdracula SG

he’s possibly testing to see if you are attracted to him….send him a casual sms, if he responds enthusiastically, then better days ahead, otherwise you need a new target…

browniebaobao SG

maybe he's juz testing u.. or maybe he's really busy or not in the mood.

wait. if he's interested in u, he will ask u out again.

Cenarious SG

I believe the guy you mention is my best friend. I'm informing him of this topic.

cherry... SG

Hi there,

Won't be such a coincidence ba..

And if it is, please dont..thank u.. Embarassed

mhcampboy SG

Few people in this forums you musnt take heed and notice so much. And he is one of them. Wink

browniebaobao SG

ah boy~

since when u become so clever?

sayang* Laughing

cherry... SG

Really? I will take your word for it...
make me panic for a moment..the world cant be that small rite..
*cross fingers* Shocked

Gwangetto SG

Laughing

no la. down here.. full of crappers la.

Bontakun SG

In the digital world of internet, you just have to look more carefully. Basically ALL cannot be made believed, but some are genuine. You just need a keen sense in this one.

cherry... SG

Thanks baobao, I think that's what I would do..its good advise.. Smile
but i hope its not cos he is "testing" me..
i personally prefer guys to be more direct..not beat around the bush type..

cherry... SG

Phew...
it will be so embarrasing for me if he saw this..
sounds funny..but erm happy to hear that there are crappers here Laughing

Gwangetto SG

i agree.

but then u dun expect a guy to ask u if u're interested in him right?
that, i guess probably why he's "testing u"... coz, u both knew each other for only a short period of time?

he can't be able to be direct towards u also ma. since it's only a short time.

and well, he may be busy also as all of us have our own life to live.

give him some space and if he's free again, he'll ask u out one day. Wink

Cenarious SG

How would you suggest I let a girl know that I like her?

Gwangetto SG

dun have to show untiew so obvious... she'll know.

girls are smart okay. Laughing

Cenarious SG

what if she doesnt like me!!!

cherry... SG

mm, dont like the idea of being tested.. Evil or Very Mad
think i will just wait if he desires to contact me..then he will..
if not..

cherry... SG

true true, if he is suddenly too direct towards me, i may be scared off ya...
have to be fair also, i dont have the "courage/skin" to ask a guy directly if he is interested in me too, so i suppose it works the same way.. Smile
yup, will give him the space, meanwhile i will closet thoughts about him away, and meet up with other friends Smile

browniebaobao SG

girls must play hard to get.

not i say wan, ah square say wan~! Laughing

take it easy and slow ba..