Need some advice

DumberNDumber SG

I been pondering something about my relationship with a gal i once like and i like to have some advice from people here.

The situation was that i had found myself having positive feelings for this gal about 4-5 years back but had not told her directly that i like her (we knew each other for 6-7 years).

We were good friends since we met and do stuffs with our mutual friends over the years of our friendship. Because i was kind of shy, i didn't really made any effort to pursue our friendship in a positive way. To worsen things, our mutual friends came to know my feelings towards the gal - which resulted in the gal being aware of my feelings indirectly. Since then, our friendship cooled further, probably because both of us didn't tried resolving this.

Fast forward to current - i am bothered by the fact i do not have a good friendship with this gal and i am curently thinking of telling her directly that i once liked her and make an effort to strengthen our friendship. (I miss being a good friend with her)

i thought this move will help as i always felt awkward talking to her. The reason i concluded is due to the fact that i once like her (dont ask me why i will feel this way, it just happen.....).

The problem is that this seems so blatantly stupid - to tell her that i once like her. She got a good relationship with a guy right now which i have no desire to interrupt.

My question to the general was
1. Do i do it or i just let this be (As in let our friendship fade further)?

To the females
2. Does it sound weird/stupid if a guy friend tell u directly he once like you?

Some may wonder if i still like her now to help me... my answer is that i only feel that i once liked her and wish her all the best.

Read my nick. i think i am dumb and really getting dumber

Seth35 SG

Dont Like lor..Simple...Mind no more worries Laughing

StarPuppy SG

like..say like

no regrets of not saying it

Cool Cool Cool

Devil1976 SG

Originally posted by DumberNDumber:
I been pondering something about my relationship with a gal i once like and i like to have some advice from people here.

The situation was that i had found myself having positive feelings for this gal about 4-5 years back but had not told her directly that i like her (we knew each other for 6-7 years).

We were good friends since we met and do stuffs with our mutual friends over the years of our friendship. Because i was kind of shy, i didn't really made any effort to pursue our friendship in a positive way. To worsen things, our mutual friends came to know my feelings towards the gal - which resulted in the gal being aware of my feelings indirectly. Since then, our friendship cooled further, probably because both of us didn't tried resolving this.

Fast forward to current - i am bothered by the fact i do not have a good friendship with this gal and i am curently thinking of telling her directly that i once liked her and make an effort to strengthen our friendship. (I miss being a good friend with her)

i thought this move will help as i always felt awkward talking to her. The reason i concluded is due to the fact that i once like her (dont ask me why i will feel this way, it just happen.....).

The problem is that this seems so blatantly stupid - to tell her that i [b]once like her. She got a good relationship with a guy right now which i have no desire to interrupt.

My question to the general was
1. Do i do it or i just let this be (As in let our friendship fade further)?

To the females
2. Does it sound weird/stupid if a guy friend tell u directly he once like you?

Some may wonder if i still like her now to help me... my answer is that i only feel that i once liked her and wish her all the best.

Read my nick. i think i am dumb and really getting dumber[/b]

I don't really see the need to tell her about the 'you once loved her' part at this point?

Just let her know you miss having her as a friend and see what's her say about things?

mistyblue SG

you over think.

The past is the past.

Now you are asking for her friendship back... so talk about future.

M©+square SG

Today no mood to execute good english? Laughing

dcx SG

After such a long message, all i know is a question that you already have the answer in your mind, an answer which you seek for but just humji to accept if there's any failure fall upon you.

The answer: "What do you want"? An answer or a question?

Laughing

_Aaron_ SG

Well if that's the case, there's really no point telling her that you used to like her. Its in the past and doesn't really matter anymore. You don't want to stir things up do you? Since all you want is her as a good friend back..

What you could do is what Devil suggested, tell her you haven't seen her for a while, and maybe want to catch up with tea or movie. And that you miss her friendship..(maybe not so directly though.. yr choice.)

See how she reacts..~

browniebaobao SG

I think it's meaningless to tell her now that you ONCE liked her..

If u are still interested in her and want to bring ur friendship to another level, u can always do so.. and if the time is ripe, and there's mutual liking, u may go ahead and tell her that u like her.

MohamedF SG

If you like her.... tell her...

If ya wanna be friends, act like nothing had happened.... works like a charm...

browniebaobao SG

Never leave words unsaid, or you will stand to regret.

Magnus SG

You did not 'onced' liked her. You still do now. If you wanna tell her, of what consequence will that be? What do you wanna achieve?

She has already moved on and got a bf. What will be her reaction be if you tell her? Remember that she distanced herself when news got out the last time?

mistyblue SG

yeah ... my england is in the dump.

Laughing

Grunting like cave person has its simplicity Very Happy

DumberNDumber SG

Thanks for care. I think i will let it pass. I know it really does seem odd to tell her that.

I was thinking of telling her i like her once (or maybe even now) because it might trash the general awkwardness between the both of us.

Probably the friendship isnt meant to be :-)

Thanks guys

Brock_F5 SG

although you already make up your decision, but i still wan to gif my 3 cents. if you really feel awkward talking to her directly, you can do it the other way. through msn or by email. cos this happen to me once. and i try this way and the problem solved. unless you don’t know her email address.. but you could ask..