What is happening to me?

nick28 SG · 2006-07-12T14:08:19+00:00

Most likely ennui. Countercheck with Oxford Mushroom please.

nick28 SG

Hi,

Would like to get some advice from fellow forumites here... I am currently at the mid-career stage working in the health industry. I have been in this MNC company for more than 3 years now. When I first join the company, I was really hardworking and managed to promote to a higher rank in just 2 years. I learned from my colleagues that it would usually take 3-4 years before one can be promoted as it is the norm here. That said, after the first 2 years, I am beginning to slack. Not sure of the reason why but I dun really have the interest to work hard anymore. Even after I had successfully requested for a transfer, my attitude in the new position does not change.

Now, I am contemplating quitting just to rest and take my time to look for a new job and ponder over my aspiration. However, I have my financial commitments... such as car loan, and the upcoming mortgage loan. Also, I would not want to end up earning less than my peers.. as I currently command quite a good salary (I know this is kinda stupid and kiasu).

PLease advise... Thanks.

BadzMaro SG

I think the fact that u have pretty much known the ins n outs of ur area's or departments that u seem to loose the energy to go hard from beginining to end.U already know when to do what or what is to be expected from various situations. Or maybe the loss of interest due to your bosses or those above you can also be a reason.

Or maybe u are just bored of your job. But ask urself whether u can find a better job or not. In the end of the day its all about commitment to your work whether u like it or not.

nick28 SG

As my area is quite specialised, I may not be able to get a better job unless I dun mind the paycut. All these issues are vexing me. I really duno what to do. That's why I hope someone who had such experiences can enlighten me..

gerrykoh SG

Maybe u are suffering from burn-out.
U should take a vacation & come back energized!

nick28 SG

I did try that but it doesnt work. When I am back, I would be able to work hard for a couple of days.. after that, it would be status quo. Crying or Very sad

pqr SG

can u take a pay cut to do something u like and then look for another source of income to pay the loans ?

nick28 SG

That could be possible but is it advisable?

pqr SG

u could have taken a pay cut easily to do things u like right?
but u cannot bcos of the loan commited..

So u have to choose which has higher priority?

The loan (stick to the high pay u are getting) or be happier with the job that u like (but lower pay)..

Although the ideal is if u can get something u like with same pay or even higher than ur exsiting job

nick28 SG

Yah, that would be ideal but not quite possible... Neutral

If i get a job with lower pay, i could be more stressed afterwards with all the loans coming after me..

If i continue with my job, I could also be more stressed with all the deadlines coming after me..

Either ways, I am a goner... or am i Wrong???

pqr SG

u r not a goner....

why do u want? which has higher priority??

hence, i say to compromise, the better solution is to be happy (with a lower pay) and get another source of income to meet the loan.

U should also discuss with ur partner on the housing loan issue together

casino_king SG

It certainly looks like you are dying inside. Some people find the answer in religion but others do not.

What is clear is that it is a "mental" issue. That is to say, physically, financially and career wise, you do not seem to have a problem.

Switching careers might not be the answer. You might end up with both internal AND external problems.

You are in fact at a cross road. The path you take from here can be dangerous. I advise you to be careful. Many people turn to VICE at this juncture of their lives.

Gambling, prostitution, sexual affairs and so on....

You have to search deep down and come up with an answer. I am not much help am I, asking you to find the answer for yourself?

Devil1976 SG

Do you have enough $ for you to do investments which might support yuo for a while? If so, you might wanna try going on a long 'no pay leave' at the moment... (but of course, that would put your job at some risk also)

Else, there's just no free lunch in this world.. You'll be LUCKY if you can be a job which you can ENJOY and be PAID WELL.... Many people really just don't enjoy their work at all.. (but they need to get paid) While there're still some other who get paid sh|t to do an equally lousy job... Getting the drift...?

There other alternative is to lower your standard of living...

nick28 SG

I have enough to last me more than a year but I dun wish to deplete it cos I need it for future use...

How wonderful it will be to get a job I enjoy and at the same time earn good monee... I guess that is not likely for the time being.

I can lower my standard of living but I dun wish to bring my dependents down with me. Sad

Wanda SG

Ask yourself: if, after pondering about your life and what you want, you get a job which doesn't pay you as well (and possibly with a lower job title), although it may give you greater satisfaction/motivation - will you be able to accept that? Perhaps the answer can clarify your issue.

I think you may be going through a spiritual (note: NOT religious) phase, since you are already on a good rung of the career ladder and yet you're not motivated...it's like somethings is missing.

browniebaobao SG

you need motivation.

where's your DRIVE?

Devil1976 SG

Then I can only say sometimes we have little choices in life...

Sometimes we simply don't wish to be doing what we're doing, but because of the circumstance which befalls us... We just do what we need for a living...

blowfish SG

how much u earning now!

CannyOng SG

Do you have the partner or girlfriend? U need a lifetime partner to get you into a new direction! Changing work will not solve yr problem! Go and find yr gal.

Sakuraflower SG

my friend once tell me that ur path or ur experience depend on the ur surrounding people... cause they make a impact on ur life.... I think ur effort play a part too... that what i think! Razz

I am not sure too......

nick28 SG

Thanks everyone for your advices.

I guess I just have to go back to the workplace battlefield and carry on with my life. I see that money is still an essential tool of survival in Singapore. Until, I managed to achieve financial independence or get a new job, I would still have to slog in this company...

Any last advice?