Girl that i like but no chances to get contact and talk more

Bates SG

there is a gal that i meet in my dancing class but we are both not in a same cls hours and she is my senior, sometimes she only will come and sometime she is not. And my cls only once a week so mean that sometime i even see her only twice a week if i am lucky that she come to cls, i intend to join her class but cannot because she is in intermediate class.

i am feeling good with together with her but only seldom and less time can be talk with her. i intend to get her mobile number with her but no chance, most of the time we are in the dance group (if i am alone with her only, i am sure brave to get from her 1) since in a dance group i paiseh to take from her in front of so many people, u guys know this kind of situation de la.

i am currently single now.
is there any solution ? i am quite miss her lot

lonestar86 SG

u gonna be more daring..
sooner or later, u gonna approach her..

gd luck and all the best.. Smile

hisoka SG

go stalk her abit and find out where she hangs out or studies then go and pick her up then lor. Cool

SingaporeMacross SG

Chat her up if you have the chance. Make your presence known.

R3SsH|n SG

buy some snacks to treat the class...then take the opportunity to talk to her while eating...

most important...be brave...

dcx SG

dude...you can't rush things...What i sugguest is that, why not you get along with your "classmates"...i'm sure that by linking your relationship with your classmates, you'll be able to get in touch with that girl coz there'll bound to be one or two of your classmates that'll be able to link to her....by then, use that link to get closer to her...This's one of the safest yet slowest approach.

Otherwise, if the next time you'll to see her again, be it a big group or small group or alone, go up to her and say "Hi, how do you do? I appreciate the ways you dance...hope to exchange some views...do you mind?" with a smile.

zeny SG

what do you like about her?

Do you seriously know her very well enough to understand her?

Is easy to admire from far but to know her a bit more might just change your mind about her.

Devil1976 SG

Just ask for her contact number in a casual manner... It's just a contact number, what's there to be 'paisey' about...? But ideally you should make your request a VALID one....

Bates SG

our dance clsmate all after cls then everyone back home already, i don't seem their are interest to make up any group supper or having a tea.
somemore the cls time hour me and her is diff.

wht is mean by VALID reason from taking phone number from her?

starblue SG

i take it that it's only a crush and u dunno her on a personal level yet?

buy her a drink (as in packet one) and give her after practice. then talk a bit. then ask for number. if she hesitates, get her email. better than nothing.

banzie SG

Wah you in dance class... Ballet class is it? I heard guys in ballet are quite sissy one leh... anyway joking lah..

Very easy buy a sony errisson handphone with camera... take a photo of yourself with your hp number... than pass to her after lesson lor... haha

Or the cheaper way get to know her first as frens... slowly then ask her out lor.

darknessfall SG

dude..understand how "tong ku" u r feeling now..

You like someone, yet either no chance, or no courage to approach her..
Well, like some said..its purely crush at this moment because you do not even know her personally yet... U r judging her on your first impression, which sad to say, normally doesnt represent the actual her.

It is easy to tell u to approach her directly or talk to her, get her number, blah blah....BUT we all know how difficult it is...

Sometimes, it really takes abit of time, environment and opportunity. Frankly speaking, you can either try and create more opportunties to "bump" into her and ask her about her class, or u can keep your finger cross and hope she will come n talk to you(unlikely).. Tian he di li ren he...

Since you know she is intermediate level, you can take up more lessons to speed up and at the same time, more days to see if you can bump into her.

Bates SG

again i go to the cls but she didn't not attend, make me feel somethings less to attend the cls without her.

again i hv to wait for one more week just can see her, somemore not in the same cls even got chance to meet her or not also don't know.

really no chance to see her. do i really need to depend on the fate?
so sien, i even think of get her hp from other clsmate but wht i think is not good because she doesn;t not know me well also. then i direct call her for wht?

Yunhaier SG

Which Dance School you are in and what genre of dance you learning?

Cheers

kitson_83 SG

Actually opinion is go ahead and jus try to strike a conservation with her.. U try at least 50 - 50 u dun it mean zero. I think buying snack for the class sound good as it is also a chance to show your willingness to share(plus point)

Also as you had mentioned you might nnot be seeing her again, if you dun do it now u r going to regret big time when the opp jus slip past your hand. Jus do it no paiseh one.

OO_OO_OO SG

its times like these when ur balls just seem to disappear eh? :p

Ristar SG

to find a person isnt difficult.

check friendster and webbies like that.

make sure to browse through your immediate contacts (in the dance class) first and look at their pics (for her) and who are in their friend list. this is going to take very long. even months! so do not attempt it unless u r really serious. and even if u r really really REALLY serious about this, there is a high chance that u will fail. so be ready for that.

check with her friends (or other dancers) casually. (going to be quite embarrassing nonetheless) wat i mean by casually means that u talk about other topics, and then ask this qn as if its an afterthought.

wat i suggest is that u contact her through the net first (through either one of the methods), before getting her hp number because if u get her number from her friends, its meaningless. but if u get it from herself, it means that u r interesting enough for her to give it to u to let u contact her.

not the same class hours means the treat trick has to be ready everytime u go. this can be quite tiresome but with plenty of luck, it may just work.

all this 'dun be paisey' talk is for naught because u WILL BE paisey. so, talk to her normally and attract her (a few playful negs at the right time would be perfect), NOT move too fast and make her run away.

and DO NOT , i mean NEVER, make yourself seem so interested as if u r a drooling bulldog *eewwww* and u will be fine. make yourself seem interesting, NOT interested.

it would be ideal if u dun ask for her number at all, but make her give it to u herself.

Bates SG

yes, i agree i am brave or motivated enuff but i am not a guy who are good in chatting even to guy also somemore to a person i like

but make it she give her number to me! not easy le.

Devil1976 SG

Mmm... Cool

Ristar SG

its up to u to interest her. example: astrology, personality tests... blah blah blah. talk cock with her la.

'helping' her tell her about herself will also help u understand her better. kinda like 'help u help her'. Laughing