money or relationship?

weijian SG

tell that to your kids if you have any.

the reason why there are lots of bad kids who stay out late out there, it's becoz their parents give exactly this answer that you're giving me.

weijian SG

i have being through exactly the same things, done that, felt that, when i spend away my hard earn money after slogging for hours, for a few months, so i know how she feels, she also wants me to continue to study, but she wouldn't lend me, she will feel the pinch, as if i wouldn't.

but man, these educational stuff, can't be helped one what..

as for the food matter, i noticed that everytime, so i everytime don't tell her what i wanna eat, when she calls back to ask if we wanna eat or not. this little care, i do notice, but what can i do??

everytime i buy back food, ask her to eat, she say don't want, what can i do??

corrections it should be supporting the house loan payment, year tv fees, unit tax, electrical bills and food for weekly cooking. she need not support us already, as we have our own ways to support ourselves which is a bunden lessen from her shoulders already.

i don't think i am wasteful, its education here...

being more affectionate to her, as if it will work, she just expects us to pay her some maintanence money monthly only, if full time working, at least a few hundred not looking at our income that we take, she just keep comparing with her frens' kids amount which they give to their parents, didnt consider if we are in the same salary or not..couple of times, when it comes to money...she will just demand it..but now-a-days, she just keep quiet as she roughly know that it's impossible to demand so much..given the little amount that we worked

weijian SG

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double post

shade343 SG

Errm keep the food for tml lunch or dinner? Confused

weijian SG

why would she wanna do that?

i might as well hope that i faster grow up, move out, then end of my problems.
i know this is an unfillal act, but at least, i will still pay my mom allowances if it's within my means..and i get the freedom to bring my friends back home, now she is like super supicious of the frenz whom my brother and i invite back home, invite that they are bad ppl who just go round to other ppl's hse to steal etc...

weijian SG

it's not like those food which are being separated which are easier to store the food in the fridge, the food that i buy back, have to being eaten fast, if not will turn bad de, coz the dry and wet part are mixed together, cannot store for long

if personally cook, all those then can store, my mother usually also store food, so i know which food can or cannot store

M©+square SG

Ok.

What that, i think there isn't anything more to say on my end.
I suppose there are things which you'll have to experience and with time, you see and understand situations more clearly.

Cheers

shade343 SG

Hmm...My mum is also very money minded. I talk to her about stocks and finance every night when she comes back from work. Laughing

Sometimes, its good to have a mother that is prudent and money minded. You can learn alot from her. Like how to save money and becareful about unnecessary expenditure. I dont see anything wrong with your mum telling you not to break things up in your house. It does not make financial sense to break things in the house and repair it due to tardiness.

But I dont think any mother will value money over family relations. Maybe you are just abit sensitive and extreme?

Sakuraflower SG

hm... I think that ur family had heavy financial problems cause it is not easy to support a family. She maybe too stressful or tired to talk and something when u talk about $$$. It may trigger some thoughts in her mind and remember the problems she maybe facing now.

As a son, try talking nicely to ur parent.. Maybe ur can approach somebody who is close to your mother and ask her what she is facing. Try talking in a nicely way. Dun think that ur parents dun love u , maybe she does not know how to express or express in a wrong way. Try guide her.. Tell her how to change some of her ways of expression concern. Tell her what u like her to do...Maybe she had no idea... too busy with earning $$ to support the family

All these need time, take things slowly and have faith.

Devil1976 SG

Ok. How old are you and your siblings now?

Maybe we really do not know the situation enough to comment much Question

M©+square SG

His sis should be in her twenties.

Both his brother and himself hasn't gone into National Service yet.

Devil1976 SG

Then I think I'll concur with your post.

But I would like to remind topic-starter.. To turn 'bad' or not is really one's choice... Though I've got somehow quite a similar past as you and I did no better than what you're at now even... Mr. Green "

weijian SG

in the past, everyday she says that, just that these few years, she said less of that, but more on getting the house neat and tidy, but at times she still will say that..

weijian SG

my brother has gone through and completed nsf

whereas i have yet to do so

my sis is reaching her 30s soon

weijian SG

what did you do in the past? care to share? Question

M©+square SG

I apologise for the inaccurate info.

Devil1976 SG

Sorry. I don't really like to share my past with people. Unless I just feel like it at a certain time or with a certain person.

Devil1976 SG

But simply put. I turned 'bad'?

M©+square SG

Shocked
Thanks for sharing!

Twisted Evil Laughing

Cheers

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