Relationship flop

jeramy SG

so what did u do?

Texcoco II SG

Laughing

starlightz SG

actually if she nvr sms u perhaps u can sms her mah? u muz understand too sometime she busy working? or studying? if u stays this way then u will make relationship kind of stressful to each other..

corebooster SG

bro. the only way for you to feel secure. is to trust your gf fully. understand her needs and her character. ONLY then, you will understand why sometimes she do this and that.

rikki SG

Perhaps.. Just perhaps..Your girlfriend might be thinking the same way as you do. Why is she being the one messaging u for 3 days straight. You should do so too.

cristy SG

i did nothing and carried on my life ... dats y i'm still so miserable ....

lin3 SG

i think u are really feeling insecure, and e best solution is to talk about it with ur gal. communicating can actually help alot, compared to keeping it all inside or ignoring n doing nth about it.

Very Happy

jeramy SG

hmmm communicate? means tell her to sms me everyday? dun think so la. i think she's great. its just me i suppose.. its hard to get rid of that insecure feeling..

jeramy SG

is it something like this

whenever she does something to make you feel happy yes indeed you feel happy but then it lasts strangely for a short while before all those 'bad feelings' come back again

Devil1976 SG

To an extent, you can learn to... Even if you can't control your feelings, you CERTAINLY CAN control your BEHAVIORS....

jeramy SG

yup. certianly i am controlling my behaviour by not making a fuss. (she doesnt know all these things that i feel)

but then always the stupid feelings come and always i must contain it, just hope to find out how other people cope with such things. can you really eliminate away all these feelings?

lonestar86 SG

so u like ur gf to be sticky??
and always bother u??
then ull feel secure??

omg.. thats strange..
cus I believe most guys dun like this kinda gf..
I personally also dun like this kinda gal..

yes, u might like it in the beginning (so-called honeymoon period)..
but as time goes by, u might think that shes really a bother who keeps bugging u day and night..

anyway, thats only my opinion..

Devil1976 SG

That would really be about your mentality and focus....

Understand that a relationship is not just about yourself.... If you tends to think in terms of yourself most of the time... It's almost like you've already given up on half of the relationship...

AnimalArmy SG

I have the same feelings too. I also expects the same kind of smses from my girl every day. I will feel upset and sad if I dun get the same kind. Its all due to insecurity.

nanren4ever SG

I was quite heck-care with my 1st girlfriend back then(meaning, i don't really bother 2 call her daily, chat with her daily etc) and in the end, i lost her 2 my best friend. After that, i became paranoid, and when the second relationship came, i was more uptight about her, and almost everyday, i will meet her. I became unreasonable whenever she never reply my call, or meet me. We quarrel about that, but didn't break for that reason.

Sometimes, its all about finding balance. Know when to let go, and when to pull in the rein. If u know ur gf is the happy carefree spirit type, then its better 2 give her some degree of freedom.

jeramy SG

so how do u handle it?

Muggle SG

i too experience this. i feel the way u feeling. i know it is not right. tried hard to control my behaviour. but often failed. should i tell how i feel or just keep quiet? i often keep quiet and end up quarrel due to my behaviour which alway shows otherwise.

jeramy SG

hmm what happens if u keep quiet leh?

for me i keep quiet and feel bad inside but whenever i see her or talk to her i try my best to act normal and most of the time she doesnt detect any thing...ya so thats the way i maintain.

what about you? do u become extremely moody? what i think is even if u tell her what can be achieved? do you want to force her to send u sms everytime? i think its hard. thats why its hard to find a solution. haiz

Devil1976 SG

I think you can still talk and communicate to her your thoughts and feelings in an appropriate way rather than to just bottle everything up.... By doing so, you certainly need not be making demands, especially unreasonable ones...

Quinsy SG

Yeah agreeed. Me pisces and I get insecure too. Me girl. Neutral

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