Repost - originally posted
by Yunhaier
I will share this article on Soul Mate, which CloUdiSm currently
adopt:
If you've seen me in lectures or on Montel, you might already know
that this "soul mate" thing is a subject that really gets on my
nerves. In fact, I'd like to track down and kick right in the shins
the person who started the rumour that one of our main purposes in
life is to find our soul mate.
It's not.
The odds against it are astronomical.
And even if they weren't, the soul mate we find in the course of
this lifetime wouldn't necessarily be a lover or spouse at all. The
closest thing I have to a soul mate on this earth is my
granddaughter Angelia.
Many people look so disillusioned when I announce that the soul
mate search is a myth, like I'm taking their favourite fairy tale
away. I'm not, believe me. Giving up the idea that there is a soul
mate for us somewhere and it's our job to find them can be
downright liberating. Few things bring tears to my eyes more
quickly than clients who stay in abusive relationships because they
have confused the constant emotional intensity with their concept
of what having a soul mate must be like. Even clients with
perfectly nice marriages sadly tell me that their greatest failure
was in never having found their soul mate. The term soul mate gets
mistaken for everything from infatuation to lust to an excuse for
stalking, obsession, and domestic violence.
Maybe it will help if we get straight what a true soul mate
is.
We are created with spirits that have both male and female aspects.
We live lifetimes as both genders, as a matter of fact. I have
never met anyone who's always been male or always been female every
time around.
We are also created with an "identical twin" spirit whose male and
female aspects are essentially mirror aspects of our own. That twin
spirit is our soul mate. Our soul mate is not the other half of us,
any more than we are the other half of our soul mate. I don't
consider myself half a person. Do you, really? I certainly don't
think there's anything romantic about thinking we are all a bunch
of halves walking around. If I'm not half a person, and you're not
half a person, why on earth would any of us spend one minute, let
alone a lifetime, looking for "another half" that doesn't exist and
that none of us whole people would have any use for anyway?
On The Other Side we're probably closer to our soul mates than we
are to any other spirit, but we're hardly joined at the hip. We and
our soul mates happily pursue separate friendships,
separate interests, separate work and studies, and above all, our
own separate identities. With our soul mates we enjoy the most
intimate love there is -- free, unconditional, liberated and
liberating, with a mutual knowledge only true identical twin
spirits can share.
Like all spirits on The Other Side, each of the soul mates can
choose to be born on earth for another lifetime. They might only
come here once or twice, like my Spirit guide Francine. They might
feel the need to come again and again -- I'm on my fifty-fourth
time around, and my last, I'm delighted to announce. But compared
to eternity, even fifty-four lifetimes amount to about a minute and
a half.
Which brings up an obvious question: What are the chances that you
and your soul mate are ever going to show up on earth at the same
time? Why would you feel the need to, since you are always together
on The Other Side anyway, and this experience we call "life" is
really nothing more than just a quick trip away from Home?
Not to mention the odds against the two of you being on earth in
the same general age range, enough geographical proximity for you
to run into each other somewhere along the way, and the right
gender for the two of you to become a couple, which seems to be the
top priority of the whole soul mate myth?
So please, give yourselves (and me) a break and stop looking for a
soul mate who in all probability is having a great time on The
Other Side right now, waiting for you to come Home. Don't set
yourself up for all that pressure and disappointment. Don't cling
to a bad relationship in the misguided belief that it is, after
all, your soul mate and you belong together, even if you're
miserable. Don't devalue a perfectly good relationship because
you're missing that "soul mate feeling". Don't believe for one
second that there's only one person on this whole planet you're
"destined" to be with -- what a depressing thought that is! And I
definitely don't want you to reach the later years of your life
thinking you failed because you never found someone who wasn't even
here but whom you'll be having a wonderful, effortless reunion with
if you'll must be patient for a few more "minutes" until you're
Home again.
What you will find as you move through this lifetime are any number
of kindred souls -- spirits you have known in one or more past
lives. I'm sure you have experienced the instant feeling of
familiarity, either good or bad, that happens on meeting a kindred
soul. Sometimes that instant familiarity is the springboard for yet
another earthly experience together, as friends, as lovers and
spouses, or family members.
Cheers
