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The reason behind under the actions of physical abuse from these
females of our society could be because of various reasons
Firstly. These females are unable to find better methods to express
their love to the person which they love. Reason behind inability
to find better methods maybe due to shy, fear of rejection, Friend
is also in love with that particular guy.
Secondly. The guy who this female love may already be attached.
Therefore, their love/sadness get compressed in their heart as time
goes by. Reason for compression is due to the fact that they are
unable to express their feelings to the GUY as he is already
attached and the female do not wish to be a 3rd party into the
relationship. When finally the compression in their heart gives
way, they feel extremely sad and their inability to rally the
courage to express their love and relieve the burden on their
heart
thirdly. When these females finally muster up the courage to
express their love to the guy. The guy rejected them due to some
particular reason(no interest, another girl in mind, concentrate on
studies, juz broke up not in the mood etc) They feel that the guy
do not realise that this particular female is the best for them.
They also may feel that the guy do not understand and realise the
effort they have put into this 'relationship'. In order to gain the
acceptance of the guy, they inflict physical abuse to their own
body just to PROVE to the guy that they are really in love with
him, and her love is 100%.
The following simple true life conversation explains it all
Girl - Mary. Boy - Tom
Mary approach Tom
Mary - Tom, you wan go steady with me?
Tom stunned by her comments
Tom - Err. i call you tonight can?
Mary taken back by Tom reply and feels anguish
Mary - Is there any need for you to think? If you wish to have this
relationship, just agree, if u do not wish to have this
relationship just reject
Tom mind is currently in turmoil. he does not LOVE mary but she may
be a good girlfriend. should he. or should he not?
Tom - Can give me time to think anot? i tell u later??
Mary now feeling sad and angry, gave tom her piece of mind
Mary - WHY must u think? AM i unworthy of your love? IF SO. FORGET
IT.
Mary runs off with tears in her eyes and feeling the sharp pain in
her heart
Due to the fact that MARY has been rejected in her love. She
reflects on herself, for some females, they may feel that, Tom need
time to think because he dunno how much i love him. as long i show
him i LOVE him 100%, he confirm will wan to be with me. therefore
Mary will resort to means of inflicting physical abuse to her own
body just to prove her love. in wich Tom knowing of this incident
will feel totally disgusted. Mary will only sink deeper and deeper
into this phyiscal abuse condition.
I seen this MARY-TOM thing in my own eyes in my secondary school
class with my buddy as TOM. Mary came to school with lines on her
left wrist and had a heart on her shoulder. i see liao also dunno
wad 2 say. TOM after school went to talk to her. she finally
understood. luckily for us, she found a better bf.
Girls. for those in this forum(if there are) do not ever be afraid
to talk with ur jie mei about matters of heart. they will be ur
BEST support in this period of life.
