Hello.
My gf of 4 months is kind of sticky to some extent but she's slowly
letting go. She told me she has this ex-schoolmate gathering,
ex-classmates from her poly next week. And so i told her it will be
good time for me to have a gathering with my own guy buddies.
The problem is that she wants me home by 10.30pm .. i ask why. She
said 'Dunno. I just dun like my bf to stay out late. Usually I will
reach home at 10.30pm so i wan my bf to do same.'
I tried explaining nicely to her that respect in a r/ship comes
from giving each other space. I hardly had a all-guys gathering
since like more than a year already. She tell me 'Why have all guys
gathering ? I dun even have all-girls gathering'
I meet her almost 5 days a week. On days I dun meet her, we stick
on phone chat a lot.
I asked her what if I need to work late or study my degree
part-time ? got curfew ? Then she said 'no of course not la.. cos
work and study need time.'
The i reminded her that she did tell me one thing b4 .. that she
wants me to be happy and enjoy life. I told her you keep saying
that but u just cannot let me have a decent gathering with my
buddies. I dun like to be treated like a small kid. How to be happy
when i have to keep looking at my watch ?
I tried 'bargaining' for 11pm but she refuse.
There was once she did come home late when she went pubbing with
her gal fren. I reminded her about that incident and asked for
explaination since she wants me to be home at 10.30pm. She was
stumped.
But she refuse to give in. She refuse to see my point of
view.
She doesnt keep in contact with her frens mostly due to her work
schedule. But now that she is changing job with a regular office hr
she will soon be able to meet up her frens. And I hope she will
meet her frens more often so she will not 'tie me up' and also not
be such a 'frog in the well' .. cos she keeps thinking she is
right. She basically imposes her set of principles on me and expect
me to follow.
Any suggestions on how to resolve this ?
Thanks
