XYZ07 SG hi, like to ask wat do u all think of inter-racial relationship. in this case, chinese guy , malay gal. can any1 give some advice. thanks.
dork3d SG Hmmm.. Me know one of my colleagues is having a Chinese girlfriend while he’s a Indian… So far so good lor…
Fatum SG one of my cousins married a malay girl, ... no problems there ... c'mon ... this is Singapore ... young people don't care about such things anymore ... and most of the older folks have learnt to accept it too ....
XYZ07 SG ermm.. but wat abt the name of the kid in future.. and is it possible if the guy dun convert?
gohkatkat SG rare...but they do occur.......dunno.....maybe lucky or attraction.........but best asians vs asians.....not asians vs caucasians......the kids will have alot of problems later........and not to mention...........esp the australian body odour.......yucks! i won;t want my child to inherit that odour......and all their laziness.........
kivichio SG Sigh... you do know that some of the most attractive people in the world are those with mixed heritages. There is a reason why "exotic" is usually equated with "sensuous". Laziness is not an inherited trait. Its a matter of upbringing and culture. Nearly forty years of making racial harmony a priority in both our education curriculum and environment and this is the end product. Sigh...
tiggersgd SG dun think he supported the education system in singapore n thus the end product is of that quality.
blackchickenahkai SG be prepared to be muslim.. this is my advice..no matter what u do..i still have to convert to muslim.. jsut a point of view... i have seen indian man and chinese girl.. but not chinese man and indian girls.. maybe i am just shallow.,.
coffeeortea SG true, indian girls are just..............................................................................................................
tiggersgd SG i think its nice to have a malay gf/wife. they're (some) more understanding than (some) chinese counterparts. on religion, some traditional parents still want the chinese to convert over time. while others are more lax in this area. it really depends. if not, ur gf/wife to be might br 'forced' to leave her family and ties behind (extreme?). on communication with one another, english is the denominator. unless ur into malay language? otherwise, its kinda fun to teach each other ur other tongues as well. maybe learn french? on culture. for chinese, the wife should follow the husband's culture etc. but in this case, pls consider certain mix-n-matches as its inter-racial. try out which is best for both of u. its not easy but remember that not one best is for all. come to a compromise at all times if u want it to work out. overall, try to be understanding towards each other's feelings and views. broaden ur views on life and see things at each other's angle. listen to each other b4 shooting off remarks that may result in the otherwise. enjoy urselves n each other's company.
blackchickenahkai SG well if u are a malay girl married of a non malay boy..the boy must convert.. that's the bottomline..
CKeer SG Hmmm... I do have a Chinese friend who's now with an Indian gal for almost 3 years and u can see that they're immense in their blissful relationship. Sometimes its a matter of how u think, but like they say, Asians dont have open mind like the Caucasians. If religion conversion is involved, I suggest the guy to think twice. Cos its either make or break. Cheers. C.K
elindra SG Well, is her family very strict when it comes to religion? That might mean that you have to convert. It really depends on the family. Like my friend's wife is Christian whereas he is Muslim and his parents don't expect her to convert unless she wants to. Mind you, that is a very rare and not very common scenerio. Besides that, you will have to handle your gossiping relatives etc who thinks that there is something wrong with you that you can't get someone of your own race. Not all. Some relatives I mean. Just make sure both of you can handle the gossiping. I would say it was easier for me because my parents like him very much so no problems. I just had to handle the insensitive remarks from my relatives. Religion wise is of no problem since I'm a free thinker and he doesn't expect me to convert. Btw, my husband is indian and a catholic.
choco B SG Best people to answer this question are the wife-to-be and her family. Make sure they give you an honest answer, not the superficial "oh we're not fussy lah, anything lah.. " but actually mean : "he'd better ... or else!! "
