Is asking for a stranger's phone number a good idea 4 r/s?

last SG · 2006-05-14T16:59:13+00:00

Why not? It’s a game and it takes two to clap.

shadez SG

I recently heard from a few of my friends who got their girlfriends by asking a girl in the mrt stations or anywhere else for their phone numbers but it did not last long...

The thought of asking a complete stranger for a phone number completely turns me off doing it...i just don't feel comfortable doing that and it's just so awkward...

So guys,have you done this method and how has it turned out?
Gals,do you usually give someone who approaches you and says to be frens and ask for ur number? Confused

BrUtUs SG

actually nt a good way unless u met the person(take same bus/train) many times liao… the relationship is base on the person’s appearance n charm or the person is desperate rather than u already know the person well enuff so it might not last long… above is generalize but for some it might differ…

nullifi3d SG

alamak, u spoil my plan la. I've been wanting to ask this girl on the bus for her number for quite some time.

Looks like i have to stalk her now. Laughing

Jokes aside, just do what ever you feel comfortable with. Thats why SG have normal bars and lounges to strike up a conversation with a stranger.

Ito_^ SG

no, not one i seen ever works out.

thats when u try to start a r/s without knowng each other.

lonestar86 SG

Hmm.. Rolling Eyes better dun think abt trying it..
Cus i think it's not a gd idea..

udontknowme SG

asking is one GREAT! idea Rolling Eyes
i always give the same stupid number
98765432

alexkusu SG

jus strike a conversation bah.. then after 1-2 times, if she finds u interesting, she'll ask for your number. Never ask for her number first time. Twisted Evil

Devil1976 SG

Seriously..? Nope... I don't think it's really such a good idea unless you're a 'Tom Cruise look alike' or something... But 'technically' speaking, it's just another way of getting to know another person.... Whatever happens from there on can be quite limitless.. Though it definitely doesn't give you much chance to know each other well compared to most of other methods in getting to know a person.... In a way that can be a handicap for some but yet 'advantage' for some others....

Well... If you feel that you're really uncomfortable with the idea, don't do it then? You'll probably just look very awkward with quite a low chance of success (unless you're a 'Tom Cruise look alike'... < Laughing > )... Are you desperate? If you're not, use other methods you're more comfotrable with to know more members of the opposite gender....

Did tried such things before... But often I just didn't stay in contact... Most of them I don't even call or sms back...? Razz But yeah.. That was kinda like HISTORY.... < Mr. Green "

dokono SG

I guess it depends on each individual's preference and your willingness to try out new things and probably break out of your comfort zone. If you sincerely want to find out more about the person I guess the person can feel your interest in her. The person might respond actively or not, depends on your luck.

There's no right or wrong. It takes guts to approach a stranger but it can be exciting. Again it depends from person to person. Remember, it's usually a guy's job to do the approaching so I dun think there's anything wrong. If you don't try, you have zero percent chance...but if u try u have at least 50% chance. Just remember to ask for contact number of course.

The downside is that the stranger might not trust you enough to form a long term r/s. Hey but at least you had the guts! Even a Takeshi Kaneshiro look-alike might not have the guts.

Good luck!

Gwangetto SG

there's this guy who approached my gf (when i'm not around) on a bus and asked her for her no. even.. say wanna be frens. pestered too many times until when he finally smsed her, she can't even be bothered to reply or entertain such nuisance. Rolling Eyes

hey, guys, if u all desperate, dun approach girls la. join a club please. get a life! Mad

dokono SG

that's true. u can't really blame the guy. His testerones level had blinded him. He just takes action without thinking..but since ur gf did not have any interest in him u shdnt be worried.

there's one more downside of approaching strangers. it makes u appear desperate..but u can also say it takes guts for the guy to approach a stranger. But if she is attached it's another story altogether. At least the guy takes action like a man. It depends on whose view u are looking from.

Gwangetto SG

haha.. okie. but then, there's a difference between 'thick-skinned' and 'like a man', since he continued msging her on the phone and doesn't get the hint she's ignoring him. Rolling Eyes

some guys are stupid or rather, that's an understatement.

dokono SG

maybe ur gf shd jus tell him she's attached?

unless he knows ur gf is not attached and doesnt give a damn.

alexkusu SG

same experience....

except he was a russian guy... fortunately she didnt find him sexually appealing as he looks like a jewish camp survivor Laughing

singaporesodapop SG

I had a guy approach me on the bus once. He sat down next to me and asked for my digits. I never heard from him again after that.

So, it goes to show that it's not really worth it, unless you're looking for a one night stand.

As the Tommy Tutone song goes, you should tell the guy/girl: 867 5309.

Ha.
Twisted Evil

yuko-ogura SG

of course u din hear from him ever since...

u gave him the digits...30-33-31.

ShrodingersCat SG

Not surprising since the only reason why you asking for a stranger's number is based on her looks.

And then if she reponds, also based on your looks.

Then later both find out that while they think both looks 'nice' but character cannot match.

of course cannot last lah.

Komon SG

I got my gf from the net and we are doing quite well now cuz we character quite match each other Mr. Green

Gwangetto SG

haha.. but the funny thing is.. she told him she's attached. but he went like.. oh.. but can also be fren ma.

Rolling Eyes

IDIOTS

Gwangetto SG

haha... to tell the truth, many sg girls here still prefer asian guys. SPGs r the exception.