Sounds like she may be trying to get a reaction from you with
these conversations. It may or may not be true about the guys. It's
good you are outright with her about how you feel but the key is to
do it kindly.
We can bring out point across without being harsh or using strong
words.
Anyways, just be frank with her. Let her know, you reflected on
what you said and not sure if it was harsh/strong. And that your
intent was not to hurt but to express how you felt. I'm sure she
will feel better and appreciate your honesty.
