Get married liao then further education?

last SG · 2006-04-25T11:08:43+00:00

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i_heart_icecream SG

Hmm.. I'm 20 this yr.. very in love with my bf.. Then i have this silly idea of getting married 1st, then continue my uni education... Brought up this topic 2 my mum..

Mum: where got ppl with married status continue 2 be a student 1?
Me: where don't have? why cannot?
Mum: u want u go lor, the guy support u, we don't have 2 worry abt your expenses lor, even better ar!

So, does that mean she's ok with it? haha.. i'm intending 2 do a 4 yr degree programme at NIE.. sch fees fully paid, got allowance for 1st 2 yrs (if get accepted lar.. the interview is 3rd May). Discussed this issue with my bf, n he's for the idea.. he's like "if your parents ok, i ok" he's intending 2 sign on officer in air force if he gets accepted lar..

k la, i know it's still to early 2 say, coz it's not confirmed whether i'll get accepted by NIE & he'll get accepted by air force la.. but i juz want some opinion on whether this will work out.. i really miss him a lot until i want 2 spend every single second with him. The reason i wanna be with him 1st is bcoz i dun wanna find myself missing him in the middle of the nite, while doing my homework.. haha.. then affect my performance...
Embarassed should i bring this topic up 2 my parents, like, in a serious manner?

hisoka SG

for you nothing to lose bah although so young, but even if break up later you also got extra benefits. go ahead lor. the problem is what you wanna do, even if you never get married also can what….........

i_heart_icecream SG

huh? didn't quite get u... i dunno y i keep having this silly idea of getting married... maybe it's bcoz i keep telling myself that i wanna get married young (influenced by mum who got married at 19) since i was a kid.... but that's not all lar.. i really feel that my bf is the one, coz the feeling very right. nv felt b4 de... Razz

ShrodingersCat SG

Does he want to marry you first?

i_heart_icecream SG

eh... asked him b4... he say he want lar.. but it'd be better after we're both financially stable.. but he wouldn't mind ROM 1st lor...

acegem84 SG

hmmm guess to me studies after marriage abit hard bah… bt it depends on individuals. =]

rainee SG

then go and get your education first, and get a job Wink

BrUtUs SG

r u sure abt ur relationship wif ur bf is strong enuff 4 marriage? is he ready for commitment? did he suggest to u? for guys, most can say get married early but then go army liao all the problem hits... ur parent is not convinced yet so better study first, wait for ur bf to stablise his career then get married... no need to rush... Cool

hisoka SG

okz first is whats the point of getting married so early. even if you are sure, theres still no reason cannot wait till working/financially stable le. why do you want to get married so early if its not for having children?

secondly you can go ahead and get married lah. even if things don;t work out also you will stand to benefit from the alimony.

Devil1976 SG

Hmm... Your reason for wanting to get into a marriage is kinda weird Question

yongyong SG

if u deliver a baby before 25, ur baby will :

1. live longer, a.k.a can live up to old old
2. healthier, a.k.a not easy to get sick

and, this from the mouth of N numbers of doctors...

pwnz0r SG

If your partner and you willing to settle down, go for it. There's nothing wrong with education after marriage. In fact, tell your mom that most peeps have some form of further education to better themselves for future prospects all the time nowadays.

Seriously, go for it, if there's the path you like to follow.

Xcert SG

There is absoultely nothing wrong with being married while pursuing an education...there are undergrads who are already married...even more for those in masters and PhDs...

its just a matter of whether U are ready for it.

i_heart_icecream SG

thanks ppl 4 all ur advice Very Happy

i will consider this carefully n take all your advice into consideration.. wait 4 my bf 2 book out this weekend, we discuss carefully 1st... then if really decided that we're ready, i'll go bring up the topic 2 my parents... haha

sbst275 SG

You have to bear in mind, what if a baby comes along?

nameuser SG

no need to study cause can depend on hubby

if need to have own career to protect oneself just in case hubby cannot support u , then dun marry

BufPuf SG

both my bro and sis-in-law went to study for their master after they got rom..living together liao that time

if u can cope with it
why not

rainee SG

There were many couples in my class here who have gotten married but they are still studying..so I guess it should be possible. Some of them already have kids too! So basically it is up to you, whether you can handle all the responsibilities and still concentrate on your studies Wink

For me, I would prefer to wait until both parties have finished studies though, and when we both already have a stable job...at least there will be a stable foundation when the marriage happens Mr. Green

dibilo SG

how long have you 2 been together?

sammiegal SG

well good luck but what if you have a child? you cant possibly bring him/her up when you're studying right? unless your mom's willing to babysit..

make sure you're secure in the relationship before doing anything hasty yea.. good luck. Smile