Dilemma

last SG · 2006-04-04T11:46:23+00:00

Hi guys, thanks for your advices and some of your experiences. I have make my decision and that is to move on . A few reasons : She is childish . Hard to co...

Devil1976 SG

How old are you now..?

Devil1976 SG

Just like an elder brother or....?

Hmm... Anyway, there's quite a high chance that she (or things) might change in the future.... If you're already talking about marriage and settling down at this point... I think you've probably overlooked alot of things and underestimated many things...

dcx SG

17yrs old? Just started tertiary studies not long ago?????

For me, i'll give it a miss, you see, i'm 26...what i want, this girl might not be able to accomodate or watsoever...Be it s3x or understanding/mindset/maturity...etc....One thing that i think you shld note is that, aged 26, you've been in the working society for quite some times already...more or less, you know what you want....but for a 17yrs old girl..(Note: I said "girl", not "lady" or "woman") whom has yet completed her studies and i can say that girls will tend to change when they enter into the working society...To be fair, almost everyone when stepped into the working society, will change, will mature, will have a different mindset/thingking/plans...blah blah blah....

For, do you know what she want? How true does her words hold? (Frankly speaking, no one knows..)....And how far can you go with her?

As you've mentioned earlier in your previous posts, you've quite a number of ex-gfs before...so, can you TAHAN? I'll be straightforward with you in this aspect for u n i are of the same age...

anixel SG

till today, we've been together for about a year. and we're on LDR. well... he comes back once or twice in a month just to spend his time with me. you think that helps in making the r/s stronger? hmmm.... in my opinion, i think so. coz i found that i really appreciate him as of now compared to the first few weeks i accepted him... Neutral

ehh... this thing is totally off from the topic Confused

dcx SG

hMz...seems like you're quite young....good luck to you....

anixel SG

threadstarter, if you're not sure whether you love her anot, i suggest you let her concentrate in her studies first.... Mr. Green

anixel SG

kakakaka... tq. anyway, he wants me to put my studies at the utmost priority as he doesn't want our r/s to distract my current education position. that's why i love him Laughing

dcx SG

okok...as long as you're happy n fine with it..then it's ok...but always have a little bit of self-prepared for any unwanted problems that will arise...... Wink

K800i SG

Well actually I do like her , she been treating me like a Prince seriously and some of her actions touched my heart that is why I am thinking should I go ahead or not ?

Thanks for all your lovely and useful advices ! I will consider every aspects carefully .

Btw I am not thinking of marrying early , probably in the 30s ba.

So If I decide to be with her, I will make sure she concertrate on her studies. Giving her room of space to do whatever she has to do to complete her studies.

Once I have decided , I let you guys know again .

drx SG

just help her with her studies and be there for her when she needs you.
Do your best for her and let her decide what she wants in the future.

winks you can do it no problems...

Pommes frites SG

you got car?how much is your salary per mth? Twisted Evil

Pommes frites SG

no lei...btw she graduated...she can marry you liao..yay...can be housewife!!don need work!!!! Mr. Green

Devil1976 SG

Is that the reason why you're thinking of being with her? At her present age, how many years do you think it might take before her attitude starts to change...?

And most likely that her parents might be adding more pressure for the both of you... In time to come, strongly wearing both of you down... Is your mind set for that? Or are you just thinking that if there's 'love', it should be able to overcome EVERYTHING Question

Devil1976 SG

Ok... What is your current occupation..? It's still pretty 'early' I guess...?

LDR for now might be more suited for your mentality for now, that's why you're feeling everything as sweet? Hmm... Anyway... So long as you're happy, just enjoy the relationship to its fullest while it's here with you..? Wink

alexkusu SG

girls that age are like bombs.. push wrong buttons and they'll explode causing you much anguish and pain.

If you can put up with it, then your rs will work out.....maybe

anixel SG

haha.. hopefully i can graduate in time next year. early? i think so but here am i still going against my folks i don't know why.
for your LDR statement.. it may be...... but anyway, i think i'm a loyal person and so does he. i believe we have built a pretty strong trust for each other, although barely a year after we've been together. we've also talked about any circumstance that might trigger the r/s. so we had an 'agreement' and that helps me alot. lol.

Devil1976 SG

Wink

Yunhaier SG

I believe that it would classify you as her first love if she were to pursue this relationship with you. (First Love in this case is denotes as First Relationship).

If that was the case, I suggest that you shouldn't 'think' too far into the relationship other than enjoying each other's company and see how this relationship run.

Marriage?

This young lady probably knows next to nothing other than companionship in relationship. You got to allow that sort of natural, intangible learning to take place before the subject of marriage would make any sense to her.

If you were to pursue this relationship, born almost a decade difference, your needs, desires and wants are vastly different. Work that out first before planning anything else. Idea

Cheers

petanque SG

guess u n i r in the same situation.. my gf is only 16 n i m 24.. somemore we r on LDR.. but we still in love 4 a few months already

well, if u love her, i say go for it coz life only come once.. if u think so much, u will never get anywhere.. if u dun try, u will never know whether it might work or not...

my advice is go for it but dun expect much.. anytime the relationship might change.. so juz enjoy while it lasts.. Very Happy

ubermagicseller SG

17? Nothing lasts forever. I seriously doubt she will be with you till marriage? OMG, think carefully. Perhaps if she is 27, I can see she could be serious in settling down.

I could be wrong though, some 12 yr old kids are more mature than 16+ kids.

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