Hi Chaah,
It's been 2 years, & you still haven't moved on. You ask
why...
1. Nobody can help you move on, UNLESS you want to move on. Friends
can persuade you & comfort you till their throats are dry, but
if you refuse to let go, & you refuse to accept that it's over
between the both of you, then No matter what anyone says, you
won't. There isn't anyone to blame but yourself, girl...
2. By hanging on, & wishing you can turn back the clock, the
only person you're deceiving is yourself, & you're wasting Not
only your time, but that of those around you as well. Because they
hafta keep being there for you to cheer you up, to comfort you, to
talk you round. Are you being fair to them?
3. Make a positive effort to tell yourself you wish to start
afresh, & it's time to close a chapter & forge ahead with a
new & happier life. Whenever you catch yourself thinking of
him, make a CONSCIOUS effort to think about other things, such as
shopping, colouring your hair, getting the newest magazines to
check out new buys (ohmigawd, is this theurapeutic!), indulge in a
homemade facial, etc.
4. Let all your friends know that you intend to move on, & ask
for their support. They'll be glad to help you if they're true
friends. Let them take you out & paint the town red.
Remember. When you refuse to let go, when you
refuse to accept, then the person who loses out most is YOU.
Because the world won't stop just because of you. Others go on
living, as do your friends, & obviously he already has moved
on. It's only you who's stuck in a space which suffocates you &
makes you miserable.
Best of luck. [exits thread]
FeowFeow
