This is a carefully
crafted seduction and you make an excellent victim for his spell
weaving. You, having small social circle, worsen things.
It seemed to me that he is planning for his future; he probably
thought that army will reduce his chance of interaction with
ladies, or means difficulty in managing any BGR and he would
probably have to lay his cards well enough for people whom he
thought as potentials to remain emotionally connected with him
despite the vast passage of time.
He is so confident, that you will fall for him as he urged you to
express yourself to the one you like. The minute when you
hopelessly tells him about your inner feelings, it acknowledge the
fact that his seductive model works just right. Once it happens,
all he need to do is to 'upkeep' you periodically so that the spell
will be kept in check.
He displayed dramatic vibes into your mind, through his interaction
with you and there are meticulous attentions spent on you. The fine
prints, the details are all taken into accounts.
And there... time was ticking. In fact, he revealed that time
wasn't advantageous to him when in fact, ironically, if he is a
shrewd player, he would have understand that this means a better
terrain to maneuver.
In the Greek Mythology: Narcissus is a beautiful hero. His beauty
is so great that all who saw him, falls in love with him. But he
will look at none of them. Even the fairest of nymph, Echo, didn't
moved him.
We must understand that there are people whom may not be looking
for Love and a serious relationship like yourself. These people
seek companionship and people to adore and worship them like
Narcissus. He is so ingenious because you are always insinuated
through by the scenario he has created and if you have noticed by
now, he has mention none of his own betrayed feelings that says
anything about loving or liking you.
If you are looking for a committed relationship, my take is to
widen your social circle and explore new territories. There isn't
any strict bond stating that you must devote your time and soul to
him alone. 
Cheers
