The thing call chemistry in a r/s

EggBreak SG

A girl once told me recently, I felt the sparks between you and me but I don't feel any chemistry in this relationship.
Meaning, she liked me but she don't love me..
How exactly did u people create the chemistry between your and your other half ?

dunn1e SG

um.. means she likes you? but you’re not kissing and hugging enough?

Sandistur SG

She basically means "both of us are attracted to each other physically or due to behavioral styles. BUT we don seem to have mighty lot in common lehz.. So sori, don think can be with u, we r not ready. Off tangent feeling really feels not very right leh."

One does not exactly create chemistry. It is something which just fits. Each individual has specific needs and wants. Until most needs and wants are being met, ie: similar OR complementry..... happy waiting Very Happy

FeowFeow SG

Dear Egg (another of my favourite food Mr. Green ),

I don't really understand what she's talking about leh Razz

The so-called "sparks" actually make up chemistry between 2 people. Chemistry in a love context is kinda like its scientific counterpart. Like water = chemical bonds between hydrogen & oxygen, chemistry in relationships is about a guy & a girl coming together & forming a hopefully lasting & unbreakable bond.

If something extreme happens (like in science, extreme heat is applied, etc), then the bonds may break, & hydrogen & oxygen hafta be by their lonesomes again until hydrogen finds another oxygen to bond with.

Chemistry would refer to the compatibility (water can't be formed with hydrogen & sulphur) between the 2 parties, & the circumstances (like extreme heat applied) under which the relationship is formed.

FeowFeow

smudgey SG

i can only guess that the sparks she refered to is the initial wooing period where you are both kinda interested... but know not much about each other... it's the unknown, the mystery that's the "sparks"

however, once you get to know each other, you'll either realise that you can love him/her, or you just don't like him/her in that way...

yuko-ogura SG

maybe not enuff activation energy ba..

need catalyst to speed up the reaction le.

catalyst:jealousy? Rolling Eyes

FeowFeow SG

Jealousy make actually break the bonds Mr. Green

Maybe the catalyst should be extreme heat or passion Wink I dunno lah, the combination of different chemicals will result in different compounds, & the catalysts for every relationship will differ.

So he has to figure out for himself what his lacks.

FeowFeow

smudgey SG

yup. I agree.

you might be making a bomb.

sinicker SG

FeowFeow SG

Thanks, how did you know my chemistry only until Sec 4??? Laughing

FeowFeow

yuko-ogura SG

huh?
its a lvl wad. Rolling Eyes

sinicker SG

this is the 1st picture of a chem text i can find. Laughing just to humour only.

on a serious note, it's hard to describe chemistry in a r/s. if it's there, it's there. cannot just suka2 "eh i like her! she chio!" and you go for her. no matter how hard you work in the r/s, if there's no chemistry, inevitably, the r/s will be over. it takes a special someone to be compatible with a certain someone. this is when the term 'match made in heaven' comes to play. Wink

drx SG

Love chemistry lesson by our local sm queen.... Shocked Shocked Shocked

drx SG

agrees with what qing qing says..

winks winks ....

browniebaobao SG

i tot sparks only ignite when there's chemisty reaction?

i think wat she meant is that she was attracted to u, but there's only attraction, she dun feel anything more than that.

EggBreak SG

Thanks all for the replies

So, overall the answer comes down that its takes time to love a person yea?

Maybe i was too rushed, thus, destroying the possibilities to start a well r/s with her.

Guess i've learnt my lessons.. I shall understand one truely before i actually start to woo the girl i like

mahai_gotbigballs SG

don't listen to [Mahai's disgusting & offensive post editted] me. I'm an idiot who only knows how to talk nonsense & I don't give constructive views to people. I'm only here to be an irritant because I don't have proper upbringing.

Devil1976 SG

mahai... Jiak bah liao right...? Rolling Eyes

browniebaobao SG

jiak bah bo sai bang..

ta shi chen zhe le.

FeowFeow SG

Actually, looking back, I dunno how I came up with that Laughing

FeowFeow